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| Fri, 04-01-2005 - 1:11pm |
Ok, so I'm 30 years old, and a female. ;-) I for the LIFE of me cannot understand WHYYYYYYYYY I keep getting 40+ year olds contacting me on OLD sites. I don't know, can someone explain to me why guys love women who are 10 years younger than them? (Aside from the physical reasons!!)
I'd like to know about the age range that the other ladies on the forum are looking for. My age range for 30 is 28-34. And yet I almost NEVER get men this age contacting me. It's to the point where I want to put, "HEY--DO NOT contact me if you're over 34 years old, as I WILL NOT BE interested in you!!"
Now, I know it IS possible for some to connect with people out of their normal age range, but I don't consider myself one of them.


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I'm 40, and my range is 35-43. I'm not rigid about it, though. If a guy is 45 and really intrigues me, fine. Younger than 35, I don't know - seems like they just want a piece of coyote.
When I was in my 20's I frequently dated guys 10+ years older. In fact, the only man I ever seriously considered marrying was almost exactly 10 years older. But I was much more aligned with men in that age group - I was ranked nationally in my sport, I had my own business and was just more grounded than 20 somethings.
"Whatever happened to men getting better looking with age? Not seeing it at all!"
LOL, you're right Lilah, I don't see it either! Craziness.
And you're right, it does have to do with maturity, but I guess what I'm saying is I just turned 30 a few months ago. I'm still just barely entering my 30's I guess you could say. Whereas a 40+ year old is in another decade, passed through his 30's now into another crucial time in his life. We would just be at different stages.
You're probably right about the guys just emailing every pretty face. Sad. It's like they're fishing; throwing out the line and don't really care what they reel in as long as it's young and firm! hehe
i'm just a lurker, but we all have different taste. My ex H was 7 years older than me, and my last bf 13 1/2. Age has little to do with the person...there's a "may december romance" message board right here on i-village. sometimes just cuz something isn't right for you doesn't mean it's not right for other people.
good luck :)
jen
<< I don't know, can someone explain to me why guys love women who are 10 years younger than them? (Aside from the physical reasons!!) >>
There are several reasons, actually.
You mentioned physical appearance as being an obvious one, and it is. There are lots of guys looking for a "young hottie".
Another reason has to do with how socially accepted it is. You see Ashton Kucher dating Demi Moore and it's big news. Everyone is just so shocked that a guy in his young 20's would be dating a 40-something, especially in Hollywood. However, when you turn it around it doesn't seem at all out of the ordinary. It's routine to see guys in their 40's, 50's, and even 60's dating much younger women. For example, Harrison Ford dating Calista Flockhart - he being 60 and she's in her 30's (37 I think). A "regular" 30-something guy will see that and think that him dating a 25 year old is not so bad, because it's only 10 years difference or so.
Finally, I know a lot of 30-something (and even 40-something) guys would love to have a family someday, and women in their 20's or early 30's have obvious benifits in that respect.
I don't think all of the above reasons make it ok, BTW. It's just one of those "double-standards" that occur in life.
Personally, I tend to go for women who are closer to my age (I'm 36). I think there would be a big maturity gap if I were to date a woman in her early to mid 20's. Older women can be just as sexy, if not more sexy anyway. :-)
Eric
I'm 42 and I usually use 39-48 as a search criteria. I have had messages from guys ranging from 27 to about 60. I'm definitely not interested in a guy that has just finished school and may be living at home with his parents but I'm not interested in a man that looks like a contemporary of my father's either. I think having common interests and experiences is a must.
Very interesting responses.
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