Age differences

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Registered: 02-01-2005
Age differences
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Fri, 04-01-2005 - 1:11pm

Ok, so I'm 30 years old, and a female. ;-) I for the LIFE of me cannot understand WHYYYYYYYYY I keep getting 40+ year olds contacting me on OLD sites. I don't know, can someone explain to me why guys love women who are 10 years younger than them? (Aside from the physical reasons!!)

I'd like to know about the age range that the other ladies on the forum are looking for. My age range for 30 is 28-34. And yet I almost NEVER get men this age contacting me. It's to the point where I want to put, "HEY--DO NOT contact me if you're over 34 years old, as I WILL NOT BE interested in you!!"

Now, I know it IS possible for some to connect with people out of their normal age range, but I don't consider myself one of them.

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Registered: 02-02-2004
Sat, 04-02-2005 - 7:48am

It's a matter of preference. I am 45 and my range is 37 to 54. I don't mind someone older as long as they don't look like hell (to be honest I am connecting less with the older guys because most of the time they look like hell).

Now, I really don't mind the younger ones, as long as they are mature ; )

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Registered: 07-24-2004
Sat, 04-02-2005 - 11:24am

I agree with you, cb.

Linda
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Registered: 07-24-2004
Sat, 04-02-2005 - 11:34am

Playboy Magazine gives this guide to men: the youngest you can date is half your age + 3 years. That allows a 40 year old to date a 23 year old with no judgement from the other guys (except, most likely "HELL, YEAH!!!")

I'm 42 -- my range is 37 - 50. I get tons of replies from 60 year olds. (I also get the 25 year olds who are looking for us gals in their sexual prime...)

I'm not TOO hung up on whether they look like hell at 60; I have a simple test. I suggest that as soon as the weather gets nice, he join me for my Sunday bicycle ride -- it's 40 miles. If he can hack it, I'd consider it...!!! :-)

Tracy

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Registered: 12-10-2004
Sat, 04-02-2005 - 1:00pm

It's partly a biological/evolutionary thing, too. We're programmed to search out a younger woman/older man sort of pairing.

As already pointed out, the younger women are going to be more fertile, more likely to give the guy children that live (hence, his DNA continues to survive). From the female's point of view, an older guy has more experience and is presumably more crafty, therefore he's more proven as a provider and can protect her.

One thing I find REALLY interesting- even though a lot of the women here are bemoaning this aspect of dating, almost every single woman that posted an age range that's acceptable to her was willing to date a guy who's further from her age OLDER than how far she's willing to accept YOUNGER.

For example, and I'm not picking on you, goober, just pointing it out; you're the OP (original poster) and you're complaining about how these old guys are hitting on you.

Yet you're 30; your age range of matches is 28 to 34. That's 2 years younger, but you're willing to take a guy who's 4 years older! So even while you're complaining about it, you're also doing more or less the exact same thing; just not to the extent of the 55 year old dudes who're hitting on you.

I'm not saying you're a hypocrite; I think it's fairly unconscious how we do these kinds of things. I'm the same way. :) Like Eric, I'm 36; my "acceptable" age range when my profile was up and running was something like 25 to 37 or so. Yes, the children thing is a big part of that, but it's also just what I like.

My present gf is 30, 6 years younger than me. I just looked at her old profile page (I have it saved on my computer!) and she was looking for a guy who's 30 to 39, so nobody younger and definitely someone older was her desire.

To women who don't want to get winks/emails from the older guys, I do urge you to be very explicit; if you have a "cutoff" age range, put it in there! Be nice about it, but be firm... "Thanks to those interested, but my upper limit of age range is 37 and I will not answer anyone older than that, so please save your time and energy and don't write me if you're 38 or older!"

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Registered: 03-19-2005
Sat, 04-02-2005 - 11:22pm

Hi goobersmooches,


I have been on match, americansingles, imatchup at different times in the past two years.

smiles,

Leidy

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Registered: 03-17-2005
Sat, 04-02-2005 - 11:36pm
Britney's guy is less than hot - he's nasty.
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Registered: 03-17-2005
Sat, 04-02-2005 - 11:44pm

I'm scared of guys with web cams. Makes me wonder what else they're doing on there. I know, I know. Maybe I'm wrong but I've had my share of guys asking if I wanna view their web cam and lo and behold, Junior was on screen.

It just creeps me out now.

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Registered: 02-01-2005
Sun, 04-03-2005 - 12:06am

I agree with you, KITB, I am also afraid of guys with webcams. :-/

"One thing I find REALLY interesting- even though a lot of the women here are bemoaning this aspect of dating, almost every single woman that posted an age range that's acceptable to her was willing to date a guy who's further from her age OLDER than how far she's willing to accept YOUNGER.

For example, and I'm not picking on you, goober, just pointing it out; you're the OP (original poster) and you're complaining about how these old guys are hitting on you.

Yet you're 30; your age range of matches is 28 to 34. That's 2 years younger, but you're willing to take a guy who's 4 years older! So even while you're complaining about it, you're also doing more or less the exact same thing; just not to the extent of the 55 year old dudes who're hitting on you.

I'm not saying you're a hypocrite;"

Umm yeah, there's no way you could call me a hypocrite based on my age range niceguyonline, because you have to have at least SOME age range you're comfortable with! And most ladies on here will agree, going younger rather than older, you have the immaturity issue to deal with. (Certainly not saying you don't get it with older guys though!) I'd rather have a guy a few years older than me than a younger guy; most younger guys never work out; their minds (and sometimes bodies) are all over the place, and they can't focus. Basically they're not ready to settle down yet. Like, a 24 year old would be much less ready emotionally to settle down than a 34 year old. You see my point now?

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Registered: 03-19-2005
Sun, 04-03-2005 - 12:31am

Hi breeze,


Yeah, I can see where your coming from.

smiles,

Leidy

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Registered: 03-17-2005
Sun, 04-03-2005 - 10:36am

You make a good argument and it works for you. I'm still not convinced. If they even SAY they have a web cam, I'm gone. And I'll confess, I skip over profiles with web cam pictures.

Too many pets, web cam pictures, bad grammar, too short, too fat, too skinny...argh! I'll never date! LMAO




Edited 4/3/2005 10:44 am ET ET by kneesinthebreeze