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| Fri, 04-01-2005 - 1:11pm |
Ok, so I'm 30 years old, and a female. ;-) I for the LIFE of me cannot understand WHYYYYYYYYY I keep getting 40+ year olds contacting me on OLD sites. I don't know, can someone explain to me why guys love women who are 10 years younger than them? (Aside from the physical reasons!!)
I'd like to know about the age range that the other ladies on the forum are looking for. My age range for 30 is 28-34. And yet I almost NEVER get men this age contacting me. It's to the point where I want to put, "HEY--DO NOT contact me if you're over 34 years old, as I WILL NOT BE interested in you!!"
Now, I know it IS possible for some to connect with people out of their normal age range, but I don't consider myself one of them.


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I am 45 and when my profile was up stated my preferred age range as 37 to 49. I have gone out with men older than myself, but in general find that they are kind of boring and just want to stay home. I like the energy and vitality of the somewhat younger guys - they enjoy getting out and doing things!
The guy I am dating now is 37 (8 yrs younger than myself) and we get along great (in our 3rd month of dating). He has a slightly older taste in music and has always preferred ladies somewhat older than himself. He is charming, caring, funny, interesting, and has his life together. He does seem more mature than his age. Most people say that I look younger so we fit well together I believe. We have many things in common. We had the kids talk and he doesn't want to have any and I stated that I had no intention of having anymore which was fine with him. He likes to go and do things and so do I, so it works out nicely.
I myself don't like the "daddy"/older guys - say 15 to 20+ years older than myself and have received many emails, winks, IM's, etc. from that age range even though I specified I was not interested in it. Just my preference. Sure they are more established in life and like to tell you about all of their stuff that they own, but a good relationship was more important to me than the things. I also got tired of hearing how they would cherish me, take care of me, and spoil me - yeah that will certainly change my mind about your age being old enough to be my dad - Not!
I was contacted by the 20 somethings that were my kids' ages on a regular basis also! Yes, it's all about booty to them and the "experience' of us more mature ladies! Nope delete on those ones - just can't do it - yet I must admit it was almost tempting at times for just one great night....;)
I've just come to the conclusion that most men DO NOT read profiles and just click on any face that interests them. So when I had my profile up (before dating the guy that I am now), if I was contacted by the much older or much younger crowds, I'd just delete them.
By the way - I have a male friend who is married to a woman 16 yrs older than himself and they have been happily married 20 years now. So each person has their own preferences and what won't work for one may work great for another.
Good luck to you goober in attracting the age range of your choosing.
Sunshine
I'm only 27 and I like The Doors, too.
<<"I know that I'm a few years outside of your desired age preference but I was really intrigued by your pofile so I thought I'd say hello. ...blah blah" . They never write back.]>>
I think I'd avoid starting out with a negative like that when I e-mailed someone. Personally if someone contacted me pointing out why they aren't for me first, I'd be a whole lot more likely to delete the e-mail than if they just didn't state the fact at all. It's not like you're being deceptive -- heck, they can read your profile and tell what age you are -- but calling attention to the fact that you don't fit something they've listed is just giving yourself one big black mark against you before you've even started.
Well, it worked with me. A fellow said he knew he was a couple of years outside of my range (older). "I'm not apologizing for my age, though. I really liked your profile. I think we have quite a few things in common."
I didn't take it as a negative so I emailed him back.
"I think you are missing the point - there's "older" and then there's just old. Having a range that goes a few years older is entirely different than someone 20+ years older coming at you."
Yes, that's what I was coming on here to reply to him, but you stated it perfectly. Thank you Sisfox! :-)
A hippocrite would be me saying I don't go for 10 years+ older men, when I actually do prefer it, which I don't. Me saying I'd prefer someone a FEW YEARS OLDER than myself, doesn't make me a hippocrite, niceguyonline.
>>I think you are missing the point - there's "older" and then there's just old. Having a range that goes a few years older is entirely different than someone 20+ years older coming at you.<<
LOL No, I got exactly that "point". My point is just that it's only a matter of degree- what's "just old" for one person might be fine for another.
Either way, if someone is actively looking for the older-man-younger-woman thing, then they are doing the same thing as the "too old" guys are doing.
The only difference is the point at which the "line" is drawn to say "that's too old".
But no matter how you try and spin it, if someone is saying "Old guys contacting me is creepy" and still looking for an older guy themself, they're playing right into the situation and are perpetuating the situation.
It strikes me as somewhat silly to complain about the whole older-guy-younger-woman thing when the complainer is doing EXACTLY the same thing- wanting an older guy.
That's all. I understand that y'all are saying that there's a difference between wanting a guy who's "a bit older" but still within an age range, and rejecting the "too much older" guys, but what I'm saying is that it's nit-picking; either way, you're still wanting to keep the older-guy-younger-woman idea.
Doesn't ANYONE understand that or see some irony in the situation?
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