Age differences

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Registered: 02-01-2005
Age differences
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Fri, 04-01-2005 - 1:11pm

Ok, so I'm 30 years old, and a female. ;-) I for the LIFE of me cannot understand WHYYYYYYYYY I keep getting 40+ year olds contacting me on OLD sites. I don't know, can someone explain to me why guys love women who are 10 years younger than them? (Aside from the physical reasons!!)

I'd like to know about the age range that the other ladies on the forum are looking for. My age range for 30 is 28-34. And yet I almost NEVER get men this age contacting me. It's to the point where I want to put, "HEY--DO NOT contact me if you're over 34 years old, as I WILL NOT BE interested in you!!"

Now, I know it IS possible for some to connect with people out of their normal age range, but I don't consider myself one of them.

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Registered: 08-07-2003
Tue, 04-05-2005 - 12:35pm

I understand your point about it being a matter of degree.

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Registered: 02-07-2005
Tue, 04-05-2005 - 12:49pm

NGOL,

You said, "...I understand that y'all are saying that there's a difference between wanting a guy who's "a bit older" but still within an age range, and rejecting the "too much older" guys, but what I'm saying is that it's nit-picking; either way, you're still wanting to keep the older-guy-younger-woman idea..."

IMO it is not nit-picking and not the same thing at all. There is a difference between dating guys a few years older than yourself and dating guys 20 years older than yourself - it's not the same thing at all! Sure they are both the older-guy-younger-woman *idea*, but there is a BIG difference between having someone a little older and someone more like a daddy! Does that seem the same way to you? The degree to what age the person is willing to go out with DOES make a difference between the ideas. I feel like you are lumping these ideas all together as anything being over your own age is *looking for older men*.

My mom is 65 and they even classify themselves as the younger seniors and there are the older seniors!

Having a daddy wouldn't work for me, but I'm not saying that it is wrong for someone else as we all have age differences which we prefer and that's fine. Luckily we all like different ages and different types of people!

Sunshine

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Tue, 04-05-2005 - 3:43pm
The rule I've heard over the years is one-half your age plus 7.
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Registered: 11-29-2004
Tue, 04-05-2005 - 6:46pm
Hi! I honestly don't think there's anything wrong with the age thing. I to am an online dater person. But my online dating is on my cell phone chat rooms. I'm 23 now, but i met my now boyfriend who was 32 then. It's been a year and we're still happy. Sure we had our ups and downs. I find my self at an early age having more in common with older people than people my own age. Maybe that's why i chose my mates older.
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Registered: 12-10-2004
Tue, 04-05-2005 - 8:44pm

>>If you are going to do online dating, you ARE going to get emails and winks from people who don't bother to read your profile and who don't match what you are looking for at all. I don't think there is anything you can put in your profile that will prevent it.<<

That's an excellent point, and so true. Even the analogy you used is the biggest one for me- I would get email from smokers, even though I explicitly said "I hate smoking and can't stand being around someone who smokes" in my profile.

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