The age-old physical attraction debate

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The age-old physical attraction debate
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Wed, 03-29-2006 - 11:25am

So a friend of mine is seeing a guy, who I've met.

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Registered: 04-14-2003
Wed, 03-29-2006 - 11:33am

Dear Friend:

I am thrilled that you and your new beau are interested in helping me find a great guy. I am sure this prospect is a wonderful person, but the physical attraction on my part just isn't there. Thank you so much for thinking of me, and let's get together soon.

Countrygrlupnorth

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Registered: 07-21-2004
Wed, 03-29-2006 - 11:41am
LOL

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Registered: 03-18-2005
Wed, 03-29-2006 - 3:03pm
Can I offer one piece of advice?
 
 
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Registered: 04-14-2003
Wed, 03-29-2006 - 3:14pm
No, it's not just coffee. If this was a true OLD meet, yes it would be just coffee. But there is a friend involved, a friend's boyfriend, potential for hurt feelings, and CGUN is probably going to have to come up with a reason why this guy is not right for her if they don't hit it off. It's a land mine.
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Registered: 03-18-2005
Wed, 03-29-2006 - 3:58pm

You missed my point - she can meet for coffee - doesn't matter if it's a blind date from a friend or OLD.

 
 
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Registered: 03-18-2005
Wed, 03-29-2006 - 4:02pm

And for the record this bald guy blew me off with no explenation to me or my friend's sister.

 
 
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Registered: 03-16-2006
Wed, 03-29-2006 - 4:06pm
Not to put words in chamey's mouth, but I think the problem is more that this is the best friend of the boyfriend of a good friend of CGUN's.
heather 5-18-10
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Registered: 05-19-2005
Wed, 03-29-2006 - 4:44pm

You are absolutely NOT being too picky if his photo doesn't do a thing for you. Physical attraction is very important.

If in doubt, ask yourself this. Could you picture him naked, or would that be too revolting?

There. You have your answer, sister.

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Registered: 03-16-2006
Wed, 03-29-2006 - 4:48pm
LOL!
heather 5-18-10
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Wed, 03-29-2006 - 5:51pm

I totally know what you mean. Before I met E, my cousin (who's my mom's age) was trying so hard to set me up with a man who is best friends with her step son. I was considering it but through my job as a school photographer, I saw him at the school he teaches at. OMG - ick ick ick, not only not my type, but he seriously needed a shower. I was not only surprised that she would set me up with him but I was somewhat offended that she thought that being clean and presentable wasn't something that was important to me in a date. I told her that I saw him from afar and didn't feel any attraction toward him and I returned his call and said I wasn't currently dating. In the meantime my cousin was mad and called my grandmother to ask her if I was only willing to date someone who looked like Brad Pitt - how insulting! I guess her feelings were hurt that I wouldn't even go out with him once and honestly I considered it but I figured I'd have to tell him after that first date/meet that I wasn't interested so why even bother?

Melanie

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