The age-old physical attraction debate

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The age-old physical attraction debate
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Wed, 03-29-2006 - 11:25am

So a friend of mine is seeing a guy, who I've met.

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Registered: 05-19-2005
Wed, 03-29-2006 - 5:52pm

Hey, good point Vex. Why didn't I think of that? Hmmm, I guess you could say I like to think big. lol :)




Edited 3/30/2006 8:31 pm ET by happyjustme
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Thu, 03-30-2006 - 12:29am

Well, it's a guy my friend's seeing - it's too new to really say this guy is her "boyfriend."

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Thu, 03-30-2006 - 2:40am

I am like that as well. I need initial attraction. BUT, i can tell you, i once went out with a guy who was VERY unattractive in his photo, i mean really bad ... (sounds mean, but its true!) & i already had agreed to meet him, as a blind date, & i didnt have the heart once i saw his pic to cancel & hurt his feelings. I will say, although i STILL had no attraction, he was about 80% BETTER irl, than in his photo.


What that taught me was that actually, people can definalty look way better than a photo. As a matter of fact, there is a Match guy who isnt really my type - Im not majorally attracted (as opposed to Craig, who i was & AM! lol) who i may meet. I mean, to me he is "ok". But no sparks. But, maybe he will be cuter IRL.


Just my 2 cents

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Thu, 03-30-2006 - 8:45am

I'm wondering if your friend possibly knew that you might not be attracted to this guy physically and that is why she put the line "don't judge" in with his photo. He could have a great personality and he might look better in person, but I totally understand if he is a turn-off.

I have also been accused of being "too picky". The guy I'm dating now is quite a bit heavier than I would normally go for, but he is good looking overall and does have a good personality. About the only thing I find unappealing about him is his sometimes juvenile sense of humor; I'm still on the fence about how to handle that.

Anyway, I would not feel too bad if you decide not to meet this guy. If I had seen the photo of the guy my friend set me up with last year (her brother-in-law), I doubt that I would have gone out with him. At the very least, I would have been prepared for what he looked like. He was the brother of my friend's husband and they looked NOTHING alike. I was shell-shocked all evening. Looks are not everything, but yes, if they are a complete turn-off, I would pass.

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