Ah! Help!!! Interested friend??

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Ah! Help!!! Interested friend??
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Sun, 03-18-2007 - 6:14am

Ah!

So I've always kind of liked my best friend's boyfriend's best friend (catch that?) I also live with these two (my best friend her boyfriend.)

Tonight, I found out from another friend that this guy I had liked told her on Monday that he was considering asking me out. I was shocked.

Later tonight I asked my friend, "are you serious about that?" and she said, "yeah, but tonight when I asked him about it he said that he wouldn't want things to be akward with all of our friendships if things didn't work out."

Then later on when he and I were talking, he randomly mentioned how he and I seem to be looking for the same things in a relationship.

The other friends we hung out with tonight were kind of gently pushing us to be next to eachother and whatnot. I invited all my friends to go out with my parents for supper when they come to visit so they can meet them all. This guy said to call him because he'd love to, as his roommates are gone and he's lonely this week.

I was also going to meet up with a guy from match.com tonight, but cancelled as he was making some odd comments on the phone. I felt bad about cancelling, and this guy tried to cheer me up about it all night. He also bought me a couple of drinks, tried to "nonchalantly" touch me or brush my arm, and we rode back together (he let me drive his car as he had too much to drink.)

So... what's going on here? I'm confused. Should I invite him (along with the others) to come eat with my parents? He's a social studies teacher, and my parents and I plan on visiting a history museum this week. Should I invite him with since he's bored/lonely? (To be kind, no expecations?)

All the sudden I have all these guys who are interested, and dates lined up. This is the guy I've liked from the start. Any feedback would be appreciated!

Thanks in advance!
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Registered: 10-07-2004
Tue, 03-20-2007 - 12:56pm
A couple of months ago I was dumped by a friend that I started dating last summer. We always had a great time together and enjoyed the same things and got along with each other really well. Well, last summer we went camping together with some friends of ours who had mildly been trying to get us together. Well that happened and 9 months later I was completely in love with him and he dumped me with the explanation, "I can't do this anymore." We never fought, I was not demanding, he just has serious issues when it comes to women. My point to all of this is be careful. If you like this guy as a friend, maybe find out if there are any skeletons or flags that you should be aware of before you fall for him. I'm not saying things won't work out, this could totally be the guy for you, I just think you should find out if you guys want the same things in the long run.

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