Alcoholics?
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Alcoholics?
| Sun, 10-30-2005 - 8:39am |
I mentioned this on my dating diary, but I wanted some feedback here. Since this issue can be found either online or offline when dating, I put it here.
Anyway, I've kind of stumbled upon a guy I'm interested in. The rub is that he's in AA, sober for 2 years. He physically cannot drink alcohol anymore, so he doesn't really battle his demons anymore (so he says) & is a sponsor for someone else.
Anyway, would this be a dealbreaker for anyone? Other than that, that's the only caveat I've encountered with him so far. I'm feeling that it shouldn't keep me from meeting him in person, but I should keep my eyes open if it proceeds from there.
Thoughts?

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Ok...then the biggest piece of advice I can give you is to look out for signs that he is in denial about his addiction (many people who are in AA are still deep in denial--merely being sober and in the program doesn't mean that you are not). Addicts who are in denial are very good at managing their "story" so that it doesn't sound that bad. It's not so much "lying" as careful editing (telling some of the truth but not the whole truth).
Sheri
This would not be a dealbreaker for me. If he's been sober 2 years and is sponsoring someone, he's pretty serious about staying sober.
I would be scared of a guy that was an alcoholic or drug addict who quit without any type of recovery program. Those usually turn out to be "dry drunks", not good.
I would give this guy a chance...
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