I think it's odd. When something feels off - it usually is. I may not be the best advisor though because I tend to read into stuff too much. That is the thing that drives me nuts on old - multiple prospects. I keep thinking - well how many other people are out there in the play.. My profile is hidden - I want to see just one man. I am not sure if he feels the same way. He did tell me in the beginning that he was talking to one other girl and she is out of town but is moving here soon. I never ask him about it but it is always in the back of my mind. I guess, I am hoping he brings the "exclusive" stuff up. Sparkle, I really hope that this guy will prove us wrong. BTW - why are you surprised that he paid for your drink? Girl, he should pay for drink, meal and thank you for coming out to meet him!
It doesn't sound odd, only because it happens to so many of us OLDers -- The Perpetual Emailer.
Your brother is right, we all date at our own pace. However, it comes down to what YOU want. You sound like me, I get impatient with emails/no meetings.
If this had happened to me I would be thinking -- what the heck is he doing online the night before a Friday off (mutual at that) and not arranging for a get together for that day or the weekend? I would propose getting together and if he was reluctant I would have to let him go.
What I would do is basically STOP emailing him, and the next time he sends you an email, respond with your phone number and say something like, "I really enjoyed meeting you and would like to do it again if you are up for it. Please give me a call if you'd like to get together again". Then don't respond to further emails. If he's interested, he'll call you and set something up. And if not, no big loss...you don't want a pen pal, right ;-)?
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I may not be the best advisor though because I tend to read into stuff too much.
That is the thing that drives me nuts on old - multiple prospects. I keep thinking - well how many other people are out there in the play.. My profile is hidden - I want to see just one man. I am not sure if he feels the same way. He did tell me in the beginning that he was talking to one other girl and she is out of town but is moving here soon. I never ask him about it but it is always in the back of my mind. I guess, I am hoping he brings the "exclusive" stuff up.
Sparkle, I really hope that this guy will prove us wrong.
BTW - why are you surprised that he paid for your drink?
Girl, he should pay for drink, meal and thank you for coming out to meet him!
It doesn't sound odd, only because it happens to so many of us OLDers -- The Perpetual Emailer.
Your brother is right, we all date at our own pace. However, it comes down to what YOU want. You sound like me, I get impatient with emails/no meetings.
If this had happened to me I would be thinking -- what the heck is he doing online the night before a Friday off (mutual at that) and not arranging for a get together for that day or the weekend? I would propose getting together and if he was reluctant I would have to let him go.
Good luck, whatever you decide!!
amjay
Edited 7/9/2005 11:03 am ET ET by amjay45
Thanks everyone for responding!
What I would do is basically STOP emailing him, and the next time he sends you an email, respond with your phone number and say something like, "I really enjoyed meeting you and would like to do it again if you are up for it. Please give me a call if you'd like to get together again". Then don't respond to further emails. If he's interested, he'll call you and set something up. And if not, no big loss...you don't want a pen pal, right ;-)?
Sheri
My pen pal guy has written to me again via email.
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