All These RULES!
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All These RULES!
| Fri, 09-23-2005 - 9:46pm |
And mind you, not saying we shouldn't have personal guidelines... but all these rules that we all throw around, at times it seems to me we are so focused on the rules and forget about living life.
Let's stop analyzing everything. Let's stop wondering. Let's just start enjoying the flow and seeing where things go. Life is too short for all of this.
Where have our rules gotten us? We have all these rules, but ask yourself: Where have the rules

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ITA with your previous post too, I laughed when I read yours.
ok--I agree that we should live life and just go w/ the flow.. But this board is to help others and give insight to people through our own experiences.. I come here myself for that. Of course we will all do what we want but we do learn some lessons and hear other's stories.
I do agree w/ NWW that we have a lifetime to be w/the person if he is the one so why rush it.. i also agree we don't know someone that quickly after 1-3 dates and we are romanticizing.. Yes I have been there and have been hurt that is why I too also changed the way i do things . Not that I am still not a romantic by heart and want to be swept off my feet but I do it slower and w/my eyes wide open and my emotions in check.. I too was recently swept off my feet to only find out afterwards what did i really iknow of this person.. I thought this was what my friends told me, You will just know.. so i went w the flow and yes it was ok that i did, a lesson well learned to just keep yourself in check ..
Again everyone is here to help and support eachother and share their experiences. The more i come here, the more I date , the more i share the older i get the wiser i get.
I too feel in a very healthy place, where I know I have choices,not someone else making choices for me and am very close to finding that person that will make me happier than i am already..
it is all about choices and we all make our own ! but it does help to have some experience along w our gut instinct as I well know GUT instinct doesn't always work by itself.
Ladies and gents,
I think my post has been taken in a way I did not intend it to be... in no way, shape or form was I negating anyone's advice nor was I saying the board shouldn't be here... I was simply talking about getting caught up in the red tape of rules and not enjoying life. Nothing more, nothing less.
If I didn't think this board was important, I wouldn't be here... ;o)
Hmmm your last statement was interesting. My gut instinct about people is almost always right...I always get a little flutter when something isn't right. However arbitrary rules like don't have sex until month 3 or stuff like that is just guidelines really, but there are some people who express it like it's gospel that don't follow their own rules when they are put in the same situations. LOL which I find funny But that's another story.
Anyhow, I think everyone can say, slow is a better approach and for the most part, I think we try to follow those guidelines, but sometimes we just have to go with the flow of things and not be so rigid, if the guy is the right guy for us he's not going to run away because we made out with him or had sex with him before some arbitrary rule says so and vice versa.
Got it! I do think us women as a rule tend to overlanalyze and overthink way too many things when meeting someone new and going into a new relationship. So go out there and have fun, be smart and if something feels off and your gut is going off chances are there is something to that so listen to it!!!
Cheers,
SP
Hmm- Thanks for the reply , but honestly I have followed my gut instinct where I thought i was soooo on target about someone and was only found to be misled.. which only made me feel i could not trust my instinct alone ALL the time.. Most of the time yes..
I have also discussed this w/ others , because it got me worried thinking I could not trust my own gut, as I know when it flutters and something isn't right but a recent situation had me questioning my gut instinct and after discussing a few others found that perhaps I need not only listen to my gut , but slow down and learn from experiences and consistent actions. So I am just learning for MYSELF that to be sure I go on more than just my gut sometimes.
I am not sure what motivated this post, but I agree. :) There aren't any clear cut answers for do's and don't's because there are so many **factors**! Personality, temperment, what people are "use to", etc. etc.! And we **all** make mistakes, and that is okay! :)
Sara
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