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alright need help writing opening msg
| Sun, 07-09-2006 - 1:19am |
OKay I got my pics up on match.com my profile revised, (don't worry its nothing like my myspace profile), did some searching, found a girl I liked, seen that she has viewed my profile too.... now I have to think of something to say in a message! should I do the "wink" thing first... that seems really cheesy lol I think id rather just write a message.... I've been putting it off for a few days and I know i shouldnt wait any longer... soooo any ideas on what to say/not say in a first message?

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Good for you!
& *I* personally am not thrilled with "winks". I would WAY rather get a "hello" email.
Say "hello" - talk about stuff in her profile that you noticed (eg: I see you love movies. Its one of my favorite pastimes. Have you seen .... (insert your favorite movie that is NOT a killer movie! lol ... )
Give her a short synopsis of what you're about (preferably not exactly whats in your profile).
& i always end my 1st contacts with something like "If you'd like to take a look my profile & chat more, let me know. Otherwise, best of luck to you!"
Good luck!
Good for you. I hope you have some positive experiences that help to change your outlook.
When I was doing OLD, I always appreciated messages instead of winks. It takes more thought and effort, but do know that the person on the other end is more likely to respond favorably if you put in the extra effort (not always, but those are the risks in OLD). You might point out something about her profile you found intriguing. Ask her a follow up question about it (e.g., if she's a history buff, ask her to recommend a good read). Don't be overly focused on her pictures, but it might be nice to compliment her appearance, but don't go over the top with it. In addition to showing interest in her in a substantive and concrete way, think of some of the connections you two might share and comment on those (e.g., "I'm also a huge ____ fan.") And while most people's objective is to find romance, I liked messages that weren't too eager or forceful. Make an invitation to communicate further and leave the ball in her court--no need to ask for phone numbers or a meeting in a first message.
Hope this helps.
I'm with the other posters... show that you read her profile and have interest in her as a person, not her picture. She caught your eye so let her know the things that interest you about her without going overboard, ya know?
And you know we're here if you need us...
great she didn't reply, just what i needed to fall back into a deep depression. that's what I get for getting excited about anything.
How long has it been since you sent the message? Some people only have email access at work, so if it was only over the weekend, she may not have even had the chance to reply.
Why don't you copy the text of the email here so we can give you tips on how to maximize your chance for a reply in the future?
I would also not put all your hopes in one girl. Online Dating is definitely a numbers game (as is real dating too). My mother used to tell me that you have to kiss a lot of frogs before you meet the handsome prince and it's the same for men too. OLD is like sending invitations to a party--you can send 100 invites and only receive 20 responses and of those, only 10 really show up.
Use that to your advantage. Contact a lot of women who interest you and see what comes of it. Don't let one throw you into a depression. OLD requires a really thick skin as most who are here could tell you...
Hope this helps.
Kerry
Again, I think it would be wise to contact others. This way you won't get too hopeful in any one person.
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