Am I being a bit$$?

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Registered: 07-31-2004
Am I being a bit$$?
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Tue, 02-15-2005 - 5:38pm

Remember that guy I really thought I'd like to meet that I actually paid to respond to? Then he blew me off for what three weeks, then wrote to me, I wrote back saying I wasn't all that excited to meet him anymore but good luck. So he waited another couple weeks or so and then wrote me again yesterday, asking why I took my pictures down. I wrote back telling him I was going to be completely honest - that the only reason I paid was to talk to him and that him disappearing for longer than I thought was cool was a real disappointment because it's very hard for me to find a guy who is taller than me, has a profile I think would match mine, parties like I do and rides. So I took my profile down (I thought but apparently I need to do better clean up). He wrote back today saying he's sorry, he was out of town for a couple weeks, and work was EXTREMELY busy. Yeah right! He was active on both American Singles and Match that whole time! I know because I couldn't wait for him to write back. Lyin' sack of you know what.

Would you write back or would you just block him?

Lisa

(I'll tell ya what I did later but you can probably guess.....lol)

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Registered: 10-26-2004
Tue, 02-15-2005 - 10:18pm

Hi Lisa,

Girl, You laid the stripes on the road, as we say here! Good for you...state the Truth and then shut em down--that is ALL he deserved! I too get tired of men thinking I do not Have a brain because I look like a cute little cupcake! Not only DO I have a mind, I have one that can CSI Just about anything--dumb as a Fox, I say! lol!

"Out of town"...more like "Out of your mind!"

This is what needs to be done when someone (male or female!) is a mutt butt!

Truly,
Cupcake
"Fool me once, my mistake, Fool me twice, YOUR mistake"

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Registered: 12-10-2004
Wed, 02-16-2005 - 12:47am

While I think he was lying, I also think he paid a bit of the price of your own dashed expectations. You had some relatively high hopes for this guy; he kinda stomped all over them by blowing you off.

He acted badly by lying (saying he was too busy but still being on and searching), but you're also holding him at least partially accountible for your own feelings of "dang!" for paying to write to just him. That's not entirely fair to him- he can't help that you're bummed out in general with OLD, and he can't help that you pumped up your expectations about him specifically.

Does that make sense? I don't know if I'm saying it right... I'm not blaming you, I'm just pointing out that you're kind of jumping his case for something that's out of his control- your own dashed feelings.

But at least when you wrote back to him, you were honest. :)

Sorry that you're having a rough time of it lately. How tall are you, anyway, that finding a taller guy is a struggle?

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Registered: 07-24-2004
Wed, 02-16-2005 - 1:30am
I had a friend this happened to but they actually met and then he ghosted and would pop back up and still ever so often tries to call her. He was busy. He was sick. BLAH BLAH BLAH!!! She was like you just do not get it!!
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Registered: 07-31-2004
Wed, 02-16-2005 - 6:46am

I'm 5'7 and it's hard to find all those combos I like in one guy. I agree I put it on him for making me pay. But honestly, I don't care. Finding a man who doesn't lie is like trying to find Atlantis (as that country song goes). If he lies about that, what else is he gonna lie about? The truth would have been much better and I would have had more respect "Well I finally got to the bottom of the barrel after getting blown off by my favorites."

I'm sick of it.

Lisa

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Registered: 05-16-2004
Wed, 02-16-2005 - 6:49am

L- You shoulda sent the "sell crazy" link. I'm just waiting for someone to flake enough to deserve it. My last flake lived too close and I would have potentially run into her again.

http://www.moviesoundscentral.com/sounds/asgoodasitgets/hump.wav

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 02-16-2005 - 8:52am
I'm 6'0 so I know how hard it is to find a tall guy.

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