Am I being paranoid?

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Registered: 09-26-2004
Am I being paranoid?
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Sun, 11-20-2005 - 5:42pm

Had a first date yesterday, and haven't gotten an email or anything from the guy yet (it is Sunday late afternoon.).

So of course, being a girl, I'm immediately going, "He must not have liked me. It's over."

It is not unreasonable to not hear from the guy immediately, right? I am being stupid, right? LOL!

Avatar for northwestwanderer
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 11-20-2005 - 6:02pm

Well, first off...how can something that hasn't even STARTED yet be "over"???? You're putting way too much emphasis and weight on a first meet, IMO.

And 2nd...I think it's best to go into every encounter early in the dating process with the assumption that you *won't* hear from the guy again...if you do, great, but if not, oh well.

All that being said...it's been my experience that if a guy is really interested, he'll either set up another date while you're still on the first one, or call you within a day or two, max. But there are exceptions to that...I wouldn't be stressing about it if I were you. Line up some other dates, and be "que sera, sera" about this guy!!!

Sheri

Avatar for travkitty
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Registered: 11-05-2003
Sun, 11-20-2005 - 6:12pm
Still too soon to consider him a ghost. Assume at this point that you will never hear from him, but if he calls or emails within 3 days, it's a good sign that he's still interested. If not, no biggie, just closer to Mr. Right.