Am I being put in the friendship zone?

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Registered: 05-28-2005
Am I being put in the friendship zone?
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Sun, 11-13-2005 - 11:19am

I met a new guy last Saturday night. I felt it went really well. We talked and laughed for 3 hours and the time flew by. I hugged him afterwards and we exchanged *I had a great time"s.

He emailed the next night letting me know he had a good time and hoped I did, too. He hinted around to going to the movies. I took the "bull by the horn" and asked him if he had any free time on Saturday or Sunday. He called me on Thursday night and wasn't sure about Saturday night. He had some previously arranged plans.

So he called last night and we made plans for today (Sunday) and told me that he'd check the movie times and call me this morning. After I talked to him I thought to myself, "I wonder if he is planning on an afternoon movie?".....Sure enough he called about an hour ago letting me know the time for the matinee.

Is this a bad sign? I wonder if he wants me to think of him only as friend potential. Or am I reading too much into this?

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Sun, 11-13-2005 - 11:34am

I think you are reading way too much into this. He may be someone who (like me) hates to do anything on Sunday nights because he's too busy stressing about his job and the week ahead ;-). I wouldn't draw any conclusions JUST based on the fact that he wants to go to an afternoon movie. You just don't have enough information to reach any conclusions.

I'm curious though...if he had plans for last night, how was he able to call you? Or did he call early in the evening?

Sheri

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Sun, 11-13-2005 - 11:39am
Last night was up in the air as he had already made plans to go to the city with friends and he wasn't sure how late he would be getting home. He got home at about 7;15 and he lives 40 minutes away from me so we agreed to go out Sunday.....
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Registered: 11-13-2005
Sun, 11-13-2005 - 1:00pm
Hi ,
I as the the last responder agree , this is too early to draw conclusions on the status of the relationship yet . From a guys perspective i would have to say youll need to be a bit more verbal with him , and feel the situation out before drawing in plans on what hes got goin on in his head.....er uh ....brain . Guys who are honest and who can be depended on are also good communicators...remember thats a good sign . Throw a few questions at him and see how he responds ...like is the matinee the only thing avaliable ? Now if hes distant at first and doesnt spell out things or is passive at notions you may spin at him on what hes feeling , it could point out that hes a very private person ....and that in itself is a lambrinth of inquiry to get into on another email . But if hes really looking to develop a relationship , he will be generally honest and eventually spill the beans in one way or another on what he intended by the dates end ...usually over food or drink ( preferablly wine ) as it opens the emotions .That way youll know that he was honest enough to be up front so as not to affect the relationship farther down the line .
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Sun, 11-13-2005 - 1:07pm
My first thought is that he's got plans Sunday night.

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Sun, 11-13-2005 - 5:35pm

Thanks, everyone.....we had a good date. I think he's shy and cautious. He talked to me about tentative plans for another date, but he is leaving to see his family for Thanksgiving and I won't see him for a few weeks.

I do get the impression that he likes me, but is feeling a bit awkward. I just have to take things slow and keep myself from thinking too much about things. I rarely meet someone that I like so I do tend to get a bit antsy.

Thanks again for your thoughts.