Am I being unreasonable??

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Am I being unreasonable??
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Fri, 03-28-2003 - 12:19am
Brandon and I have been together for a week now and when we talk its wonderful. I mean I'm in love with this kid. Sometimes I just feel like he doesn't have time for me or something. If I want to talk to him I have to wait up until like 1 am (its 1:12 am and he STILL isn't on yet) because he's never online during the day. If its a Monday or Wednesday that means I don't get to talk to him because I have classes Tuesday and Thursday and I can't be up late...not when I have to sit through 7 hours of lectures. I haven't talked to him since Tuesday and even then he was only on for 10 minutes because HE had to get up early...what about all the times I wait up for him? Before that I hadn't talked to him at all on Monday either. Tuesday after he got offline I just sat here and cried my eyes out because I couldn't stand it anymore...I miss him so much and I just want to be with him or at least be able to talk to him for more than 10 minutes. I don't know if I should bring this up with him or not....I don't know if its me asking too much so early or whatever. But for the record, HE's the one that asked me to be his girlfriend, HE told me "i love you" first...I didn't say it until a few days later because I didn't want to say it and not mean it....I don't get it, but I'm so sick of feeling this way. When I don't get to talk to him I'm sad and bummed out, then as more time goes by I get angry because I hate that he doesn't make time for me. *sigh* Maybe I'm just selfish, I dunno.

Sorry this got so long....I just had to get this all out *sigh*

Lindsay

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Fri, 03-28-2003 - 6:22pm
Amen to that.I agree whole heartedly.I used to do the same thing but now I know if a guy is truly interested he will do the chasing.Lindsay you will find one like that,try not to try so hard.Hugs,Crystal

P.S. Try not being so readily available to him and see what happens.
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Fri, 03-28-2003 - 9:01pm
Awwww Lindsay .. sorry to hear you're feeling down girl!

I agree wholeheartedly w/ what the other ladies have said already, very good advice!

Let me tell ya, I've been there SO many times myself. Finally I realized that the distance online thing just wasn't going to work for me no matter how many different times/guys I tried (so to eliminate the mere temptation I no longer go to chat rooms & whatnot except for one local one). I get attached easily that's a fact. I need that physical contact, not only just because I want to spend time w/ my guy but also to know in person, that the trust & whatnot, in addition to compatibility is there. I had for the most part sworn I'd never hook up online again (tired of all the heartbreak & bs) but I did, only this time it was w/ someone locally (yes, there were a few other "relationships" from the same local chat .. but for whatever reasons I never felt comfortable enough to go through w/ meeting those guys) & I did everything completely different. We moved to the phone quickly, in addition to meeting quickly & thankfully we hit it off great & are VERY happy together.

I look back & think to myself how much time & energy I wasted & I could kick myself at being so niave for the most part, but really it was all worth it (even the pain that was involved) .. because that's what go me to the point where I am now & the experience to know that I deserve & demand much, much better than before. :-)

I used to get upset & feel like my guy at the moment (whichever one that happened to be) didn't have time for me or whatever ... but now it's wonderful. My bf works ALOT, yet he makes the time for me, whether it's a simple call from work to just say "Hey babe, I was thinking about you" or coming over after work (mind you I live approx. 40mins or so away from his job if you include the horrible traffic & such) just to spend some time together. This is the way it should be & you will find it too!!


Keep your head up Lindsay, it will all work out one way or another!!

Best of luck to you girlie!!

~Stephanie

(sorry to ramble on & on .. I really hope I made sense LOL)

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Sat, 03-29-2003 - 12:32pm
Thanks Deena! I plan on talking to him as soon as we catch each other online. I had a message from him last night saying he was sorry for the last few days and not being around, but I wasn't here and by the time I got in he wasn't on anymore. *sigh* One of these days I'll catch him! lol

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Sat, 03-29-2003 - 12:33pm
Thanks Crystal....I know thats what I should do, but its hard because I want to talk to him all the time! lol

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Sat, 03-29-2003 - 12:35pm
Thanks Stephanie...I'm exactly like you...I get attached VERY easily and need to be in actual contact...thats why this is so hard for me. If this doesn't work out I think I'm swearing off the whole online thing lol....although I hope it doesn't come to that and this works!

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