Am I Bratting this? I think I am....:)

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Am I Bratting this? I think I am....:)
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Wed, 02-16-2005 - 6:21pm

Hi Y'all,

I have not met this man yet..he wrote me three nice emails, he wrote to me first on Match. Maybe a first on OLD, I went out with lawyer Saturday night, and Guess Who was also there on a date? New Writing Guy! He was on a date too..I did not even SEE him, but he saw ME and wrote to me, and was very sweet...really liked the way I looked, acted. He asked me to call him, and I did. Very good conversation and he said he is out of town on biz til Friday, then he wants to call me to go have drinks and talk more.

I was wondering if it is asking too much for him to call me during the week? Or moreso, should I think that he is not into going out for a first meeting, if he does Not call til he gets back? I think I am...there is no emotional attachment here in Any way, right?

As it is, I am only 50/50 that he will ever even call again...to ask me out! That is just how I have made myself 'be' with OLD, it is a Lot easier that way...

Still, I do have some "Tinkerbelle" feelings swirling about....
what say you?
Truly,
Cupcake

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Registered: 05-16-2004
Wed, 02-16-2005 - 6:26pm
Phone calls before first meets are over-rated in my book. I don't like them. I don't like emailing with you several thousand times before meeting either. Within three emails I try to tell. Also the profile helps. Someone who has a very generic profile is going to be a wildcard. Personally I like to just go meet for coffee or dinner without a lot of pre-game chatter --- that chatting just raises the expectations usually unrealistically.
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Wed, 02-16-2005 - 6:47pm

Cupcake!! You go on wit' yer bad self!!

What an interesting situation. Is he gone until Friday like 2 days, or Friday NEXT week? If it's just 2 days, don't sweat it. Sounds like he has your number, if he's interested he'll call when he's ready. You don't know what's going on with his other date, or how many others he has in queue for that matter. You do know he's away on business and when he gets back he may need a little down time.

I vote just let it go for now and don't push anything... by leaving the ball in his court you'll find out soon enough whether he's "that into you"!

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Wed, 02-16-2005 - 7:01pm

Cupcake, ya know I love ya, but MAN, I think your expectations are a little...um...how do I say this nicely...uh, I guess I can't...*whacked*! Seriously...YES, it is asking too much for a guy you've never even MET to call you while he's out of town on business!!! And NO, it does not mean (in and of itself) that he's not sincere about meeting you!

Sheri

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Wed, 02-16-2005 - 8:11pm

Forget the request, CC. He provided you with a plan; now wait for him to follow through.

BTW, cool story. I hope it works out for you.

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Wed, 02-16-2005 - 10:22pm

Hi Y'all,

What I TRULY love about this group is that you all will Not sugar coat things, and personally, I prefer Most things that way (except the Cupcake, of course! :)

I had my sneaking suspicions that it Was a bit mucho to ask for any more attention than I have gotten up to now. I have just not been in the situation where I emailed, chatted on the phone when he called, he had seen me the night before, and was then leaving town. He will be back Friday, as I see in his email. (though That part may have been a first--has anyone else seen someone they were chatting with, Before a true meeting was set up?--again, I missed him, but he saw me. I told him, when he called and emailed, that I Do tend to concentrate on the man I am with; we have all been on that date where the other person is Constantly "scanning"..Hate It!! He seemed to ubderstand and appreciate this concept.

So, thanks to you, I rest easier under the Texas moon tonight...

4-1-1 as soon as it Happens, of Course!

Truly,
Cupcake

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Registered: 12-10-2004
Thu, 02-17-2005 - 2:38am

What Shari said. :)

When I was reading your post, I'm thinking to myself "so let me get this straight. This guy recognizes her, is enchanted enough that he immediately emails her, and he's wanting to call and meet in person as soon as he can when he gets back from business?"

Believe me, you have NO problem here. Or at least if you do, it's a darned good problem to have! LOL

I think what you should be thinking is exactly what he is showing you- he's interested, he wants to meet up, and that's cool. If he shows you something different, then you can worry about that at that point.

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Registered: 11-18-2003
Thu, 02-17-2005 - 9:46am

I agree with Sheri and NGOL.