Am I crazy?

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Registered: 07-24-2004
Am I crazy?
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Mon, 03-21-2005 - 5:53am

So, I've met a great guy online. What're the chances?? :-)

He's smart, funny, accomplished, evolved, generous, confident and we mesh on all the critical things so far -- importance of family, what we've learned from past relationships, what we're looking for, etc. He's quite interested and is doing EVERYTHING right.

So what's the issue? If this man was 6'2, heck, if he were 5'11" even, it would be a no-brainer. His profile said he was 2" taller than me, and since my past history indicates that men embellish on height, I normally would have not responded, but there was something about his eyes in the picture so I went for it. Turns out he is barely my height (and I'm no giant; just 5'5"). He is handsome, sexy and well-built and everything about him is a "go" except for my possible life sentence to flat shoes.

Shallow, huh? If I were 27, I 'd quite possibly "NEXT" him. At 42, I KNOW there are more important, more difficult-to-find qualities that are much more valuable (he's got them) and there's not a limitless supply of seemingly sane, nonalcoholic, crazy ex-ridden men out there.

What do you guys think? Crazy, huh?

-T

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Registered: 01-12-2005
In reply to: seamus2004
Mon, 03-21-2005 - 7:54am

seamus2004...


As much as everybody would probably like to believe the accuracy of a profile....most of them usually contain an exaggeration or two?

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Registered: 05-15-2004
In reply to: seamus2004
Mon, 03-21-2005 - 7:55am

Hey seamus,

I don't think you're being crazy -- there has been more than one poll posted about height on here, and it seems most women prefer a guy to be at least a little taller than she is.

That being said, the guy you described in your post sounds like he may be a "keeper", so unless the height thing is an absolute dealbreaker, I would keep going out with him. You said it well in your post about the difficult-to-find qualitites... and those of us that have been dating for a while knows that they can be very hard to find. :)

Keep us posted.

Eric

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: seamus2004
Mon, 03-21-2005 - 8:22am
You're not crazy. I met a guy last fall that stated in his profile he was 5'9". Well I'm 5'7" and he was NOT 5'9"!!!! Anyway, we met and he was very nice so I agreed to a second date. It was dinner so we were sitting down but I kept imagining what he would look like alittle taller. After dinner he went to hug me and it was just awkward. I don't know why. So we met for dinner one more time but "it" just wasn't there. Looking back I think it was more of a personality thing than a height thing with him. So I'd say if the guy you're interested in is great in other aspects, I'd say go for it. (think Sonny and Cher!!)
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Registered: 07-03-2004
In reply to: seamus2004
Mon, 03-21-2005 - 9:06am

Not crazy, since height is an issue with you. Only crazy if you don't give him a chance or two. If he's as great as you think I'm sure you will.

Cheer up. When he ghosts you can shrug it off easily since he was so dang short!

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Registered: 01-01-2004
In reply to: seamus2004
Mon, 03-21-2005 - 3:56pm

Hey Seamus-


Ooh, that's a tough one.

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Registered: 07-24-2004
In reply to: seamus2004
Mon, 03-21-2005 - 4:41pm

Calvin is cute, but he's no Seamus!! (Seamus is MY red-headed cat; he has a tuxedo-white bib on his chest...) Just kidding; Calvin is awful handsome!!

You're right, and Eric is especially right; this guy seems to have everything I would want so I'll try not to focus on the height. I'm attracted to him, so it's not a chemistry thing, but... well, you know. And it occured to me on my way into work this morning that he KNOWS I'll be taller than him with heels...

Such a small thing, in the grand scheme.

Thanks, guys.

Tracy