Am I playing this cool?

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Registered: 08-16-2004
Am I playing this cool?
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Thu, 06-15-2006 - 8:48am

I met a guy in the RW 2 weeks ago this Saturday. We've hung out three times and we've had a lot of fun together. We've talked pretty much everyday, even if it's for 2 minutes on the phone or an email or two. He works 3rd shift and I don't, so we have completely opposite schedules. Anyways, the last couple of days our conversations have been short, he was working or out with friends and I'm talking less than 2 minutes. So yesterday I get this email:

hey, i have not been trying to blow you off the last few days, but i really cannot stand cell phones. i'm just not really a talker. like i said, just wanting you to know i wasn't trying to blow you off.
-B

So I wrote him back:

Hey it's okay, not a big deal. Both of us have been busy, plus with opposite shifts it's a little hard. I didn't think you were blowing me off. Just give me a call the next time you have some free time and we'll get together and talk - in person :)

I wasn't sure if that's what he was looking for, someone who he doesn't have to talk to all the time and it's just an every once-in-awhile conversation, since he doesn't like talking on the phone. Funny thing is, he was the one to call me a lot when we first met. So I'm letting him call me. I guess my question is, am I reading him right?

Stacey

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Registered: 05-31-2005
Thu, 06-15-2006 - 9:40am

If I were you, I'd play it the same way. Even though he called a lot in the beginning, his true personality may now be coming out. It's either that or he's losing interest (not to freak you out, just throwing out all possibilities). With this one, only time will tell. You put the invitation out there, now it's up to him to grab it and run with it...


For what it's worth, there's only a few people I like talking on the phone to. Otherwise, I'm more of a "let's get together" type of person. ;o)

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Registered: 05-23-2005
Thu, 06-15-2006 - 10:47am

I can understand where this guy's coming from. I really don't like having cell phone conversations longer than a few minutes unless I'm relaxing in the comfort of my own home, which usually isn't until after 9:00pm. If I'm out and

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