Am I right to feel dumb?!
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| Thu, 01-26-2006 - 12:02am |
another interesting story from my dating life:) will try to keep short
The guy whose mom passed away last week. Called Sunday evening and asked me to come over, watch a movie and chill. He sounded sad. So I asked him to come over since I never been to his place b4 while he had. "I thought it s safe kuz he is grieving"
He comes but never mentions anything about mom. We went to my living room and he gave me a long hug. sure I thought he is miserable and needs some affection. so we make out. then we go to my room, his suggestion, and have sex for 2 hours!! and he was upbeat and happy all the time.
He stayed all the time in the bedroom then he said he is too tired and sleepy and had to go home. And left. I was mad since I realized he just came for sex and I had thought that he came for consolation. I m soo attracted to him. He is just my type. but I know he is not right. I think someone who gets over mom's death so easily is weird. someone who comes to my place for sex only and does not even stay to chat is not worth my while.
He called today to ask me to send him some pics from my last trip!! (I think it was just an execuse to call) then asked if I m still angry. so I told him I really just wanted to chat with him the other night nad we ended up having sex although I did not plan to but I was too attracted to him I could not stop him... so he said let us meet then for movie in a public place if you feel like it and ended on a note that I m always angry and he does not understand me! I m tending to write him off as a jerk. I feel he is one.
I know there are plenty of diverse opinions on this board.
I m not too concerned about the sex part as I m open to casual sex when I m not too involved but I think just visiting for sex is insulting. Also I dont think I can have any physical relation with this man without having feelings for him and not sure he has feelings for me. (we know each other for 2 months almost) but he does not mention anything close to feelings. I guess I m just venting and trying to sort my ideas
Edited to say: I met him on dating site and he seemed v. interested at the beginning and would do anything to please me. But after we started to have sex he started to want everything his way. I dont regret it as I know if we havent had sex yet he would still be acting decent and it will be harder to discover the selfish person he is after being already emotionally involved
Edited 1/26/2006 12:17 am ET by juliara2003

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"I would appreciate you telling me that I will be stupid if I do sleep with him again without discussing where we stand first."
It's only stupid if you want a relationship out of him. If you're okay with the FWB thing, then it's not stupid. Since he's only around for one more week and then off he goes and he's not the most moral guy in the world, I don't think I'd want a relationship with him. How would you trust him knowing he's cheated on every gal but one? Plus, he's not around regularly. I'd think twice about why you'd want to be his GF.
I agree - it's "stupid" to sleep with him if you're looking for a real relationship from him. If you want FWB and a casual relationship, he's your guy. He's shown himself to be a cheater and non-committal. And even though he did turn out to not be a liar on that perticular occasion, often our gut instincts tell us more than we really know. If he's a cheater, he's a liar too - you can't cheat without lying. If you are truly looking for a relationship, you have to consider whether or not this guy could ever really offer that. I personally don't think that he could, but you know the whole situation. Or if you decide to do a long distance FWB thing - can you handle that? Will that be enough for you? Will it keep you from looking for something real with someone that WILL offer you a relationship?
Either way, it's your choice and only you can make it. Good luck.
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