Am I supposed to be flattered?

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Registered: 04-15-2010
Am I supposed to be flattered?
Thu, 04-15-2010 - 1:01pm
So I joined Match again, I don't have the best luck meeting guys in daily life, and can be a bit shy so here I am, anyway I have one guy who seems pretty nice, and have had a few emails from guys that I just don't see myself interested in.
This has to be the oddest email yet:
"I was looking at all these online ads and I was thinking to myself "look at all the lonely, desperate, poor women in here", and then I saw yours and I thought "Hey, here is an ad of a lonely, poor, desperate woman who is actually cute", so I thought to send you an e-mail and see if you are as interesting in the inside as you see in your pics."
If I am lonely, desperate, and poor... What does that say about him?
I should probably just click "No thanks" although I want to write back with something snarky :)

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Registered: 04-15-2010
Thu, 04-15-2010 - 4:17pm

Hopefully it is just a weird sense of humor. I think it was the desperate that annoyed me, desperate would be someone who settled down with the first guy she met.
His profile says he is looking for someone who does not take life too seriously.
Just a bad way to make your first impression through email.

Luckily, I did not immediately send a snarky reply, I was not in the best mood this morning to begin with.

And I will not be sending any responses to him, definitely not.

Edited 4/15/2010 4:18 pm ET by czech_elle

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Registered: 12-02-2009
Thu, 04-15-2010 - 4:13pm
This man has the emotional intelligence of a rock. Some people do, unfortunately. It's not a reflection on you though. I wouldn't even dignify his e-mail with a response.

Your final reward will be heartaches and tears if you’ve cheated the man in the glass.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Thu, 04-15-2010 - 3:44pm
He may be just saying this in a very tongue in cheek, kind of sarcastic way. Unfortunately things like that don't really come over well in writing & also when you don't know someone's sense of humor. I would find it hard to believe he thought that seriously if he is one of the lonely desperate men on OLD.