Amnessia??!!, WTF??

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Registered: 02-15-2005
Amnessia??!!, WTF??
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Tue, 10-11-2005 - 2:38pm
I can't believe it, I went to check my lava email and I found a message from a guy I met about 2 yrs. ago! I went out with him a few times, I even took the guy to my Xmas dinner party, introduced him to my co-workers and he then went out of town for the holidays, said he will call me from there, nothing, just poof! ghosted on me. He emailed me today telling me how he's been looking for a woman like me, my attributes, my looks, would like so much to meet me, bla, bla, how he could not recognize me?!! Could it be that I posted a new pic where I look very hot and sexy? LOL, how Koo Koo is that? I blocked his sorry ass. Has this ever happened to you?

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Registered: 05-09-2005
Tue, 10-11-2005 - 5:19pm

Yep, it actually happened to me twice. The first time I reminded the guy and he remembered and then I never heard from him again. The 2nd time it happened the guy had to remind me who he was and then I blocked him! LOL

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Registered: 07-20-2001
Tue, 10-11-2005 - 5:28pm

I have gotten 2nd "flirts" and some instant messages from guys that I wasn't interested in, but most of them I never even talked to the first time anyway, so they maybe forgot that they'd tried to contact me previously and that I didn't respond before.

What I'm more baffled about are the number of men 50 and older who are sending me flirts, winks, and one-liner e-mails. I have been very specific in the age category on all the sites I've visited or subscribed to because I don't date much older men. In fact, I have an age range of 39-47. However, I continue to get these on a regular basis.

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Registered: 10-08-2005
Tue, 10-11-2005 - 7:54pm

LOL this is too funny, sorry if I'm having a laugh at your expense, but these guys are really too much!!!

I've been getting a ton of flirts etc. from 50-58...are you kidding me with this?? I just turned 40 & my profile says 39-45. Maybe they can't do math....

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Registered: 05-28-2005
Tue, 10-11-2005 - 8:06pm

I had a similar thing happen about 4-5 months ago. A guy and I planned to meet at a local Starbucks. He never showed and never called or emailed me.

About a month later he sent me an email like he didn't even know me......Can we say "flake"!

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Registered: 02-15-2005
Tue, 10-11-2005 - 8:23pm
That was very rude and then on top of that he had very short-term memory to send you a wink after he stood you up, the nerve! I have no idea how these guys perform on a daily basis, do you think they're even employed? With a memory that bad and short term spam or other huge deficits. I am glad I did not stay with that loser either, lol...
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Registered: 08-23-2004
Tue, 10-11-2005 - 8:29pm
I have had a guy I use to mess around with in my early early twenties send me a message from a site. I remembered Samantha on sex and the city and her "rerun". So I told him I was his rerun and that at one time he and I were very close. He just said, well when can we meet, but he really didn't remember me, and to be honest, I don't remember much after the 2nd drink of vodka and orange juice. I have passed on the opportunity to meet him. I think some of them think that because you have been involved before, they won't have to work at it if you meet again years later.
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Registered: 10-26-2004
Wed, 10-12-2005 - 12:43am

HI HK,

It's not what he's thinking Of, it's what he's thinking With!!!

Your blocking him was the best thing you could have done, as you really do not need to go backwards, and he is as "past" as they come! I bet he was 'shotgunning" and sending out a lot of the same email to female after female, Candy Shop style.

Looks like all he'll Ever get is a "misfire" :)

Good for you! You are Wayyy too good for that mutt butt!

Truly,
Cupcake

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Registered: 05-31-2005
Wed, 10-12-2005 - 6:44am

It's frustrating for sure. I never have understood how a person (man or woman) could talk to someone they've known as though they're a stranger. Don't they get that vibe of "this person

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Registered: 05-09-2005
Wed, 10-12-2005 - 10:13am

50 isn't that far from 47; and I'm sure if he looked good (there are some good looking ones) you may be interested. Although we have preferences on our profiles, that's all they are. I would hate to think that you are not flexible and would not consider a man who was 33-38 or 48-55.

Regardless, you don't have to reply to every email!

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Registered: 07-20-2001
Wed, 10-12-2005 - 12:14pm
I would consider someone 50 maybe, but most of the ones I've been sent were several years older than that. I am 45 and been told many times that I look 35. I am just not attracted to men with a lot of wrinkles and gray hair. I typically would go for someone younger since I can get by with looking younger myself. I guess right about my own age would be ideal, but that's sometimes hard to find. And, no, I don't respond to every e-mail; I'm sure no one else does either. I just think it's odd that the sites don't seem to filter the criteria that you put in. I actually got one the other day from a guy who was 63!!! :0


Edited 10/12/2005 12:16 pm ET by mitsy2

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