And "ugh" and an "aww"

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And "ugh" and an "aww"
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Mon, 12-18-2006 - 9:26am

So the other night (Thursday), I was writing online with two guys at the same time, J and M.

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Mon, 12-18-2006 - 10:50am

Congrats on the "awww" ;) I know it's hard to talk yourself down when a guy seems so great. I'm glad things are going so well!

As far as the "ugh" goes, that's so annoying!! It's rude when guys call several times and don't back off and give you a chance to get back to them at *your* leisure. I think this is more common that not (there are lots of desperate guys out there!) This guy I've seen once has called me 6 times since Friday night. If he backs off and gives me space, I'll return the call today but I really don't have the interest anymore. So, I know how ya feel!

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Mon, 12-18-2006 - 11:19am
I know, it is hard to do.

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Mon, 12-18-2006 - 11:32am

Well, as you know I was recently on the receiving end of the multiple phone calls myself, so I can definitely empathize with the annoyance you felt. The one difference is, J did call when you asked him to, just to play devil's advocate a bit. I'm not saying it was cool for him to call repeatedly, but I could see making one call and then sending an email like that.

As for M, I think you're doing the right thing by not allowing yourself to get TOO excited about him. Enjoy the feeling, but remind yourself that *time will tell*!!! But I'm keeping my fingers crossed that it works out for you, Stacey.

Sheri

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Mon, 12-18-2006 - 11:59am
Yes, this is true about the asking him to call on Saturday bit.

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Mon, 12-18-2006 - 12:27pm

I find that repeating that ("it's early yet, time will tell") as a mantra really helps me keep my thoughts and feelings (more) under control early on (more than they would be without it, in other words). I know that's hard for you to do (and I can totally relate--my nature is to get attached right away and so I've had to learn how to counteract that in order to avoid getting hurt so often) so perhaps this would be a good time for you to practice it.

That's not to say you shouldn't allow yourself to be excited--you should--but temper it with that mantra or something similar to stop your thoughts from getting ahead of yourself.

Sheri