Another 'ex' issue....
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Another 'ex' issue....
| Wed, 06-01-2005 - 9:11am |
Well, I went out with that guy again (I had dinner with him last week, then he told me he was seeing 2 others...anyway)...we spent all day Monday together just hanging out. He has a boat, so we spent time on that alittle, had dinner, hung out at his house for awhile. Great day..accept for the fact that he mentioned his 'ex' several times. They broke up last June after living together for 11 months. He had planned to marry her. But she was very violent towards him. Biting him, kicking him, punching him, breaking his rib and finally after they broke up, she set his car on fire!! He found she was on drugs. Anyway..I don't know what to do from here. He still seems traumatized. Says he only started dating a few weeks ago and has only gone on a few dinner dates. I haven't heard from him since Monday but my goal is to learn the meaning of 'patience'. Anyone else have experience in dealing with someone who was in an abusive relationship?

>>Anyone else have experience in dealing with someone who was in an abusive relationship?
I could count on one hand the number of people who contacted me online who WEREN'T in previous abuse relationships - at least according to their stories.
Generally the only thing I could come up with was to make sure the relationship ended 1 or more years ago. Violent relationships that just ended are not terribly appealing...
A hard situation I'm sure. While it sounds like you're having fun spending time together, the fact that he mentions his ex with such frequency wouldn't be something that would sit well with me. It sounds like he dealt with many issues in that relationship. It also sounds like it continues to affect him to some degree.
Perhaps instead of using patience, you should consider keeping your options open (sounds like he's been doing some of that himself himself!) Plenty of fish in the sea, I say. Why wait for him to come around? You'll be all the more disappointed if things don't turn out as you'd like them too. Keep your eyes and ears open for someone who is able to give you what you deserve :)
That's his story! I learned my lesson well -- stay away from ANYONE who b!itches about his ex during the dating stage. He is playing the sympathy card, and note that he has given you his future out for when you ask for more (#1 = seeing 2 other people; #2 = sad story of recent heartbreak).
Slagging people is classless, IMHO.
Donna, you cannot fix him.
he does kiss good though!! ha ha ha
LOL -- it is funny how one keeps attracting the same type isn't it? I get guys with legal problems wanting free legal advice.
I can't agree that this guy has broken wings, however. He was just too ready with the sob stories to be believable.