another first date

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another first date
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Sat, 08-20-2005 - 12:56pm

Well, another one is over. I had a really good time on this date and I liked the guy. He was very polite and an overall nice guy. We played mini-golf, went for a walk around the park and then had lunch at Subway. We talked and laughed and it was fun. When he dropped me off downtown, he told me that he enjoyed meeting me, had a good time and he'll talk to me online. He lives about 2 hours away so it's not like I could see him anytime I wanted anyway. It's just so disappointing when everything goes well on your side of things but apparently not on his and he doesn't ask to see you again.

Edited 8/20/2005 1:24 pm ET ET by kathy748




Edited 8/20/2005 1:27 pm ET ET by kathy748
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Sat, 08-20-2005 - 1:14pm
I don't get it. Where did a problem arise?
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Sat, 08-20-2005 - 1:19pm
How come you think he's not interested in you? He never said that.
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Sat, 08-20-2005 - 1:20pm
What do you mean exactly? What problem are you talking about?
No he didn't say that but when they say they'll talk to you online, I thought it meant that they weren't really interested in seeing you again. I might mention to him, if I'm chatting with him online, about doing something sometime if he's ever in this area again. I guess that's the only way I'll know how he's feeling.


Edited 8/20/2005 1:22 pm ET ET by kathy748
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Sat, 08-20-2005 - 2:56pm

Hi,

I can see you probably just got that "bad vibe" somehow and don't think he is interested.
Time will tell. Good luck.

Sara

 
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Sat, 08-20-2005 - 3:09pm
ok, yeah I can see how you can interpret that as him not being interested, but I do think that you should do what you planned. If you hear from him online then ask him if he would like to hang out again and tell him you had a good time then he knows that you are interested as well and won't be guessing.
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Sat, 08-20-2005 - 3:47pm

Send him an email and let him know you had a good time and then let him take over from there.

If he's interested, he'll contact you and set a date.

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Sat, 08-20-2005 - 3:51pm

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My dear, you've had one date. I guarantee he's not feeling all that much. I think it's hasty to jump to "not interested" based on that one line. One way to know for sure if he's interested is to not chat online at all, but make arrangements for another date. If he's not willing, call NEXT.

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Sat, 08-20-2005 - 4:03pm

I just sent him an email so now I'll see if he gets back to me. He's always going out with friends so I don't even know when he'd have time to come here again. I don't drive so I won't be going there. The thing is that I really thought I had my feelings in check and that I wouldn't allow myself to like him so much. I know I only get hurt this way since I've done it in the past but here I go again. Getting too attached and being let down. I should've learned something by now.
Anyway, I'll hope for the best but expect the worst.

Edited 8/20/2005 4:04 pm ET ET by kathy748




Edited 8/20/2005 5:37 pm ET ET by kathy748
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Sun, 08-21-2005 - 10:38pm

"Getting too attached and being let down. I should've learned something by now. "

RELAX...!!!! It's been one date! How attached can you be?