Another ghost!

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-09-2003
Another ghost!
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Mon, 07-24-2006 - 12:21am
I met him on lava about 2 months ago but never in real life.
we exchanged few emails over the 2 months and when I mentioned meeting he never replied. Then 5 weeks later he replies saying he was out of town. I had seen him few time on the site shopping for dates. Si at least he could have replied to my email to say he is away.
This is the second or third guy who did this.
I think he met someone and thought she was the one so he ignored my message but do they really think that we will meet them after ignoring us for few weeks.
I think if they cant meet two girls at the same time. they should drop whoever does not make it to meet within a certain time frame.
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-04-2006
Mon, 07-24-2006 - 10:12pm
It sounds like the guy has a "recycle bin" that he revisits every once in a while. you are better than that. I think you should move on. I once had a guy treat me like that and I finally got the picture that I was his alternate person or something he was just keeping around. Also, the lie about him being out of town is enough to make me lose respect for him. How would an actual relationship be with someone like this.
I agree that there should be a certain time frame that one will keep someone in a holding-pattern, but then kindly let the person know that they are pursuing someone else. It's tricky, but it's the right thing to do. Recently, out of respect, I told a guy I had met online that I was pursuing someone else. He was a great guy, and sadly, now I am not as interested in the guy I have been pursuing, and I made guy #2 feel second best, when actually he just may be a lot better than guy #1. Ahhhhhhhh, the search for love is tough!