Another idiot!!!!

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Another idiot!!!!
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Wed, 08-24-2005 - 10:13am

So I am supposed to have a date with the good looking psychologist tonight at 5:30.

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Wed, 08-24-2005 - 8:28pm
Eventhough I have my stack of guys (5 total), I am feeling down too, because of all of them together I don't think "one" has a good character or is worth keeping. I've had the dates and everything, but they don't follow up, they don't call, they don't email (as often as I want) and these are guys I had a great time with, 4 dates with two and I thought we were still going smoothly?? I saw the guy I really liked online today, I had sent him a comment Monday, he did not even acknowledge it and I saw some comments he made to some other girl just yesterday! so that's it, I'm very dissapointed, I'm not going to contact him ever again. Sparkle, I wonder the same, am I going to be single forever? How do we end up meeting all these idiotic guys?
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Registered: 03-28-2003
Wed, 08-24-2005 - 8:40pm

So sorry to hear he turned out to be such an idiot. I can't figure these men out. ACK! So sorry! I hope the next one is better!

Sara

 
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Wed, 08-24-2005 - 8:44pm

That has got to be discouraging, Karina. Where are all the good ones?
In answer to the other message where you asked my experience with OLD....I was just getting into it, but put it on hold quickly because I am not ready. I won't even be actually physically separated from my husband until another few weeks from now. I got ahead of myself by looking into OLD and started talking to a guy, but realized I was going too fast....unfortunately. I ruined something that could have been something, if it were the right time. But what is meant to be is meant to be. Anyway, the ladies have graciously told me I can stick around and I have! LOL

Sara

 
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Registered: 07-03-2004
Wed, 08-24-2005 - 8:46pm

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Whoa! What happened here? You haven't even met him, and he got to you?? As I've said a gazillion times on this board, you have to be guarded about your expections when dating (and not only because of OLD either).

The guy's excuse was indeed lame-a$$! Too bad for him, he blew it.

Now, get back out there and look some more. There are guys out there who actually have dating manners. I know you can find them.

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FWIW: I got turned off by message no. 1 when he mentioned taking down his profile because you are so pretty. I'm sure you are, but really...I think he threw you a line there.

Another FWIW: if there's ANY reluctance/delay about meeting I AM OUT OF THERE.

amjay

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Wed, 08-24-2005 - 8:54pm

maybe he just hurt his foot and had a busy week made harder by the inconvenience and pain.

i understand no one wants to get their hopes up when it comes to dates, or phone calls, but sometimes life happens. A little bit of flexibility is nice. If you go into these things knowing they'll be awful...then they'll be awful.

Hang in there. Good ones are out there.
me

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Wed, 08-24-2005 - 9:18pm
I'm really sorry to hear about this flakey guy. It seems like with OLD there are more of these than the ones that aren't. I guess what I'm really starting to notice is that the ones that are really cute and some of the ones that I think are just above average or cute, are the ones that don't get back to me when I write to them first. Was this one you were going to meet pretty hot? Because I will try to avoid the really good looking ones in the future just because they are getting so many emails from so many women. I don't know, I think there is less dating etiquete with OLD because there is so much competition and so many others out there to choose from, that they think they can just blow one person off because of one tiny thing and then just go right back on and look for another person. They really have no connection to you as if you were introduced through a friend or something so they feel like it's easier to blow you off. Take a break for a little while if you are getting tired of OLD and go back on when you feel like you are ready again. Most of the time it takes a long time to meet that one that there is a mutual click with. I think in a lot of cases it might take just as long to meet someone off of OLD as it does to just meet someone in person at random that you click with. As always, never never never get your hopes up until you guys have established regular dating and the two of you are getting along well, especially don't get your hopes up before the first date. It's hard sometimes, I know but keep your chin up and keep trying and hang in there
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Wed, 08-24-2005 - 9:50pm
Hi HK!
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Wed, 08-24-2005 - 9:51pm

Oh, what a LAAAAME response. I'm so sorry.

I totally understand what you're saying about feeling there's no hope...I'm feeling that way for sure right now. I don't know which is worse though...keeping going or giving up.

Sheri

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Wed, 08-24-2005 - 10:49pm

Yes, I too thought it was weird that he said the thing about how he supposedly was going to freeze his profile until he saw me!

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Wed, 08-24-2005 - 10:52pm

Hey Sher-


Yeah, I hear ya.

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