Another idiot!!!!

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Registered: 01-01-2004
Another idiot!!!!
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Wed, 08-24-2005 - 10:13am

So I am supposed to have a date with the good looking psychologist tonight at 5:30.

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Registered: 03-18-2005
Wed, 08-24-2005 - 11:04pm

I've said this before and I'll say it again as the others have but you need to NOT build up any of these dates Sparkle - it's not healthy. Seriously, I don't even post about my dates anymore (unless it's a crazy story I think you might all enjoy) or first phone calls - until you actually meet someone you want a relationship with just enjoy the process and know they could flake but if you hang on to faith that you will meet a great guy then focus on your life and enjoy the journey. One day you'll be posting how you met this guy for coffee, you went to dinner, maybe didn't think much and then boom one day you both thought, wow - aren't we lucky. Hang on to that and you'll be ok. Stack um up, don't focus on one and never ever build them up i.e. he's so hot or he's perfect on paper, ONLY TIME will reveal that and you have to establish a relationship first where they can proove that via their actions not words. Don't be cynical just hold on to hope and you'll be a-ok, because trust me in the end it's worth it, that much I do know.

Good luck.

SP

 
 
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Registered: 02-19-2004
Wed, 08-24-2005 - 11:10pm
I'm sorry he was such a loser and a jerk about it.

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Registered: 08-13-2005
Wed, 08-24-2005 - 11:41pm

"....but it's only human to be a little sad when someone flakes out with such a LAME excuse"

Not sure about that. Just means he wasn't right for you and the one who is won't flake. So what's sad about that?

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Registered: 08-13-2005
Wed, 08-24-2005 - 11:43pm
Okay, that ain't right. You haven't even met him and the thought runs through your mind that you could ruin his life? WTF?


Edited 8/24/2005 11:48 pm ET ET by alljackedup
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Registered: 09-27-2004
Thu, 08-25-2005 - 12:34am
I agree that it is human to get a little down when someone flakes. It can be disappointing. Sometimes we all get our hopes at least a little when we think that the person we are going to meet with will be a good one, don't we? She's not saying she's devestated, she's just saying that she's disappointed which is a natural human response to a situation like this.
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Registered: 08-13-2005
Thu, 08-25-2005 - 5:45am
Being slightly disappointed I can sorta see but to look up where he works and actually think you could mess with his life is beyond my comprehension. I can't imagine getting all worked up over someone I've never met *especially* after what is deemed a "lame ass excuse".
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Registered: 07-14-2005
Thu, 08-25-2005 - 6:03am

Have to agree with All


I could ruin his life!

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Registered: 04-19-2004
Thu, 08-25-2005 - 7:15am
Actually I don't jump to any conclusions that people are pathological liars since I was married to one at one point. I have cancelled dates at the last minute, in fact an hour and 1/2 before I was going to meet the last guy I was dating I called and cancelled the date, thank goodness he didn't brand me a pathological liar or we would have never met up again.
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Registered: 04-19-2004
Thu, 08-25-2005 - 7:28am
That's disturbing.
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Registered: 07-21-2004
Thu, 08-25-2005 - 9:58am

She didn't look up where he works; he told her. And she was just making the comment that IF she were a psycho she COULD cause trouble. She's just trying to make herself feel better with humor, which is how I took her comments. It doesn't mean she's CONSIDERING it.

I'm sorry Sparkle. :( That's a bummer. Hang in there.

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