Another idiot!!!!

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Another idiot!!!!
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Wed, 08-24-2005 - 10:13am

So I am supposed to have a date with the good looking psychologist tonight at 5:30.

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Thu, 08-25-2005 - 2:32pm

She knew his "excuse" was a crock of you know what, and she had a perfectly understandable response. I guess we aren't allowed to have bad thoughts about people who treat us like we are morons and can't see through their BS! I thought his email to her was insulting, and I'd have bad thoughts about him if I got it, too! But I'd certainly never ACT on them!

Thoughts are just thoughts, not actions.

Sheri

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Thu, 08-25-2005 - 3:03pm
You point has been made clear.

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Thu, 08-25-2005 - 3:48pm
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Edited 8/25/2005 3:59 pm ET ET by countrygrlupnorth

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Thu, 08-25-2005 - 3:56pm

Stacy-Your point has been made also.

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Thu, 08-25-2005 - 6:39pm
and this is why I am not posting. It is ok to disagree but it's not ok to be rude to another person.
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Thu, 08-25-2005 - 9:30pm

Hi Sher-


Thanks for "getting me", I apprecite your support.

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Thu, 08-25-2005 - 9:57pm

Hi Sparkle,

This thread is not really mortifying, it actually shows a perfectly good example why I am taking a break from OLD for a while. I have never in my life met more liars and flakes than through this venue. The only reason I even read this board is that my dating options are so pathetic in the town I am in that I don't really have any other options.

It has really hurt my self esteem to meet people like this and others can give all the well meaning advice they want about waiting and "finding the right one" but it unfortunately doesn't help when you keep chatting/meeting with people over and over like this.

As far as the comment that is causing controversy, I totally got your meaning...You prefaced it with "If I were a psycho stalker".... and yes I have often wondered why these guys will give out all of this personal information about themselves then turn around and act like total jerks. It makes you wonder when they will run into the "wrong" type and be very sorry. I guess they know the vast majority of us are normal and they just take their chances.

As an aside one of the things I first started posting about was a guy who I was stood up by TWICE. I happen to know his (former) best friend and he and his wife had a field day when they found out he was on the net. They couldn't believe it and the stand ups were incomprehensible to them. After comparing notes we realized he hasn't come into the downtown area of where we live for months (coincidentally the time he started internet dating) His friend says it's probably because of all of the women he has screwed over and he is afraid one is going to shove him into traffic! That's coming from his own friend....So everybody's mind starts turning to revenge after hearing about some of this behavior.....

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Fri, 08-26-2005 - 8:23am
Nevermind...I reread the post and see that she did look him up on the website. I was thinking that he'd told her and that she didn't look it up.


Edited 8/26/2005 9:38 am ET ET by countrygrlupnorth

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Fri, 08-26-2005 - 9:16am

Well, this thread sure went south!

I *get* what aju is saying: this guy was a total stranger and reactions to his two, fairly usual dating infractions (not calling when he said he would, giving a lame excuse) were awfully strong.

If there was an investment of time and feelings, if the two had actually got together and started something, I could understand the frustration. Otherwise, he's just one guy who doesn't get to *pass go*. If OLD is used right, he will be one of many.

I hear again and again on this board how expectations are hard to fight off. Maybe, but it's up to each of us to try. It's not good for the spirit to make someone into the bad guy because things haven't worked exactly as we wanted, or has said something in opposition to general opinion.

amjay

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Fri, 08-26-2005 - 9:27am

I agree.

Although the excuse was kind of lame, doesn't mean it was a lie, he could have hurt his ankle, he could have been waiting it out to see if it would be better, who knows. I have cancelled dates at the last minute because I've gotten sick or something has come up and guys almost ALWAYS give me another shot and don't write ME off as a liar. So maybe women aren't as forgiving, maybe we just assume the worse in every situation.

I totally agree, no investment other than a few phone calls/emails, no big deal.

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