Another idiot!!!!

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Another idiot!!!!
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Wed, 08-24-2005 - 10:13am

So I am supposed to have a date with the good looking psychologist tonight at 5:30.

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Fri, 08-26-2005 - 9:28am

Here are my two cents....since it is a general discussion here....I am an on the fencer in general because I am a Libra and tend to see both sides. I see that Sparkle may have just been venting and "just talking"...on the other hand, I do agree that, in the real world, trying to do something personal, work-related to the guy would be overboard, especially for a lame excuse. It would be a *little* different if he did something more personal to her first, etc. Then I could understand the feelings more so.

Sara

 
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Registered: 05-31-2005
Fri, 08-26-2005 - 9:29am

No one is saying that you cannot disagree... I think as Jodie said, this is just a situation where we're going to have to agree to disagree otherwise we could all write a few 100 posts as to why our opinions are correct, you know what I mean? :)


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Registered: 07-21-2004
Fri, 08-26-2005 - 9:51am
I understand it's no laughing matter. A lot of people (whether it's right or wrong) joke about stalking and being "psycho" so perhaps some of us have been desensitized to the seriousness of actual "real" stalking. I may have looked him up, too, though, on the website, if it was someone I was communicating with and planning to meet. Not for anything sinister - just to check him out. But that's neither here nor there.

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Fri, 08-26-2005 - 9:55am
I can certainly see where your feelings about this are coming from.

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Registered: 02-15-2005
Fri, 08-26-2005 - 10:06am

And I think this post is so crucial for people to see where you are coming from, instead them of getting all defensive because you dared to question the statement.

It was either a carelessly made statement about a topic that is very serious, but people don't think about it unless it's impacting them, OR it was a disturbing thought process.

Because of what you are going through, I understand why you felt it was so disturbing. It's NOT something to joke about, as anyone who's been terrorized would understand.


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 08-26-2005 - 10:07am

OMG!!! I cannot believe the things that are being written here. She never SAID she was going to stalk anyone!

This is just ridiculous.

Sheri

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Registered: 09-15-2003
Fri, 08-26-2005 - 10:12am

While I symphathize with what you may be going through, sparklepuss's comment was not made of malice. But rather frustration.

I'm willing to bet 99% of us have googled our dates or potential dates. It's very common in this day and age. I happen to consider it one of the "pluses" of internet dating. I've done it before. My BF told me he googled me when we first started dating.

I recognize this is a sensitive and scary issue for you and if the OP was actually making this guy's life miserable, your comments would be valid. But the OP is not a malicious person and I believe only made the comment out of frustration. All she did was look up a website where he TOLD her he worked. Aside from making a comment (which may or may not have been inappropriate), she has commenced no other action.

Thank you for reminding us that cyber-stalking is a serious issue. Fortunately, that is not the case here.

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Registered: 07-21-2004
Fri, 08-26-2005 - 10:14am
No, probably not. But if I felt disappointed, I could see myself making a joking comment about something like that (and definitely not seriously), maybe not those words exactly. I'd probably say something like, "Good thing I'm not a stalker...." I know I used to get all worked up when a guy I was talking to would blow me off.

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Fri, 08-26-2005 - 10:27am
Errr...I think the point is that the THOUGHT EVEN CROSSED HER MIND - about a person she NEVER EVEN MET.


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Registered: 10-27-2003
Fri, 08-26-2005 - 10:30am
ITA Sheri!! Sort of like defending why you prefer chocolate over vanilla. It's a moot point. Agree to disagree and move on.

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