Another interesting one!

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Registered: 09-09-2003
Another interesting one!
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Mon, 06-26-2006 - 8:31pm

sent a smile to a guy so he wrote back. went to check his profile thoroughly (I admit I dont read everything on their profiles the first time!) and found this: "I tend to be attracted to women 10 yrs younger (he is 36) or more so I prefer this age group..." I m 31 y/o but I did not mind at first. I just replied to him asking for another pic, he answered that it is the only digital pic he has. Anyway so I reply saying I just realized I m outside his age range and dont see myself acting like a 26 y/o anytime soon + good luck... so he wrote back 2 or 3 times (even though I never replied to his emails)

here is his last email. I think I will block.

I agree with you on the more than one pic issue. I've met people who, on the one hand, look completely different than their pic. However, on the other hand, you can see how from a different angle, with different light, they could look like that. Unfortunately, I don't even like the picture I have - its my only digital pic.

As for acting like a 26 y/o, I am a very liberated individual and I am looking for a very independent woman. There is a reason I am looking for a younger woman which I won't get into, but I will if you request it.

I know this isn't a point that you brought up, but I find it ironic that we live in a society where it is acceptable for a woman to want to date an older man but it is not acceptable for a man to want to date an older woman. I mention that because we seem to set up these rules that make tension between the sexes almost inevitable. I am certainly not looking for an immature or easily influence woman. I do have a certain ideal, which includes a number of things. However, I also have priorities on what I am looking for. The top two are: 1) A connection; and, 2) That she be a good person. You will have your checklist and then basic priorities as well. There is no way you can know if I meet all of your checklist items. In fact, I can almost guarantee you that I will not meet all of them. However, you will have a bit of an idea as to whether I meet your basic priority items. Using those you can separate the wheat from the shaft. If I am part of the wheat, at this point at least, I hope we can meet for a coffee or something. If not, I don't have any problem with that. I'll be disappointed, but I'm just as busy as you are, so I completely understand.

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Registered: 05-09-2005
Tue, 06-27-2006 - 11:07am

Out of curiosity, I would have wanted to know why he preferred younger woman.

I liked his last paragraph -- don't be too critical and have fun with it. I personally didn't see anything wrong with him and he writes well!

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Registered: 02-15-2005
Tue, 06-27-2006 - 11:14am

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I don't know why this jumped out at me, but it's "chaff", not shaft.

Using incorrect verbiage is one of my pet peeves, I guess. LOL

As for the rest, he sounds a bit of an oddball.


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Registered: 03-16-2006
Tue, 06-27-2006 - 11:25am

LOL, yes is it chaff not shaft but other than that, I don't see a big problem with his email.

heather 5-18-10
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Registered: 05-23-2005
Tue, 06-27-2006 - 12:48pm

I agree with Tsteph & Vexer. I don't see anything wrong with the guy...especially when you compare this to some of the really freaky ones shared here on the board. He sounds intelligent and open minded. Just have fun with this & keep your expectations low and you may be pleasantly surprised. I love to be surprised by people.


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Tue, 06-27-2006 - 11:21pm
I did not like the fact that he is looking for a 26y/o when he is 36!
also he does not have another digital pic.
He also state being average in his body type which is a bit scary for a 6'3'' guy. I think it means he is overweight.
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Registered: 06-03-2006
Wed, 06-28-2006 - 3:15am

I think you're jumping to conclusions about the weight. Who isn't average? Hell, I'm average for my height. Are you?

The picture thing would perhaps also freak me out a bit but as long as the first one is rather decent...what's the problem?

And the age thing is just not such a big problem. Some guys do prefer younger women. Not that they won't consider dating an "older" one.

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Wed, 06-28-2006 - 8:44pm
I m definitely Fit not average. I do gym 3 times a week, play squash and yoga and swim and generally active and on the go.
6' 3'' is a big guy. usually guys that tall if they dont take care of themselves they tend to be overweight. He does not include sports in his interests either. But for me asking for 10 yrs or more younger than him is not impressive at all. If anyone here is interested in dating him let me know :~P but he is in Montreal
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Registered: 02-20-2006
Wed, 06-28-2006 - 8:56pm
Is there anyone who would fit your criteria? LOL I thought I was picky.
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Registered: 02-01-2005
Wed, 06-28-2006 - 9:03pm
Oooooh....totally not true. Then men in my family are tall, but definitely in good shape. Dad, one brother, and two cousins are all over 6'2" and all military officers - active. I don't know where you get the idea that tall guys don't take care of themselves, but some totally do. It's the same with any height.