Another loser

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Registered: 09-09-2003
Another loser
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Sat, 08-26-2006 - 4:12pm

this is the guy who lied about his height and is 5'' shorter than he pretends.

I met him on Tue spent 1 1/2 together and he insisted on walking me home since we met in the parc near my place!

He seemed ok although I was not attracted whatsoever.

Wed he sends me a thank you email to which I did not reply.
Then he saw me twice on pentyofFish where we met and started a chat so I excused myself and left. and once I rejected his chat invite bluntely.

So again he emails to ask if we could doing something Thu I replied at midnight saying sorry too busy. Then he emails what about the weekend?
I did not reply.

Today he called me from a private number so I did not answer and he did not leave message (but I had a feeling it was him) few hours later he rings again from a private number and I dont answer so he leaves a voicemail with a blaming tone asking to call him whenever and left his number!

This is starting to look like a stalker now. I m waiting for a time when he is not on POF site to send him thank you we are not a match! I m just concerned that he knows my name and where I live and might be troublesome!
Why doesnt he get it? do I have to spell it out for him!!

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Avatar for northwestwanderer
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: juliara2003
Sat, 08-26-2006 - 4:48pm

Yes, it sounds like you do need to spell it out for this guy. I would do so ASAP and then block him from IM'ing or emailing you. Hopefully it won't go any further than that (and if it does, you can take appropriate action at that time).

And next time, don't let the guy walk you home even if he insists. Tell him his insistence is making you uncomfortable and decline.

Sheri

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Registered: 03-16-2006
In reply to: juliara2003
Sat, 08-26-2006 - 5:06pm

Yes, if you have to stay up late or get up super early, find a time that he's not on and send a no thanks reply.

heather 5-18-10
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Registered: 09-09-2003
In reply to: juliara2003
Sat, 08-26-2006 - 5:41pm

I just replied to him while he was on the site! what can I do he is always on the site!
I said : I m recently very busy kuz I met a guy with whom I felt a strong connection... and I wish him luck on the site. I hope this is good enough to make him understand my lack of interest.

When I met the "Hang out" guy and was very attracted and he had asked me to call which I did, I never called again kuz I wanted a signal he is interested. He did call me few days ago to plan an outing... which was something to show he is also interested.

Why dont people follow this rule to see if the other is interested! rushing things will only make them less attractive

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Registered: 03-16-2006
In reply to: juliara2003
Sat, 08-26-2006 - 6:18pm

Well, the only problem with saying that is when you are still on the site, he might call you on it.

heather 5-18-10
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Registered: 08-06-2006
In reply to: juliara2003
Sat, 08-26-2006 - 7:45pm
Then you should use it. I can see how guys are sometimes confused.
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Registered: 03-16-2006
In reply to: juliara2003
Sat, 08-26-2006 - 10:23pm
Umm, OK.
heather 5-18-10
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Registered: 09-09-2003
In reply to: juliara2003
Sat, 08-26-2006 - 11:28pm
there is partially some truth to what I said that I have met someone and interested in pursing it further with him but the lie is that even if I did not meet that other guy I was really turned off by his persistence rather than his personality... but I cant tell him that unfortunately without ruffling his feathers! especially that he seems vengeful! so I m trying to be polite while making him understand am not interested.
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Registered: 08-06-2006
In reply to: juliara2003
Sun, 08-27-2006 - 8:36am
The term "stalker" is used far too often when it really shouldn't be. Both you and Juliara contacted your supposed "stalkers" and they are trying to contact you back because they think you both are interested. And now they're labeled something that should be only reserved for people who are truly endangering someone's life. How about being big girls and telling them the truth rather than hoping they'll "get the hint"? Every one of us who are OLDing have guys (or gals) that sometime take a little shaking off to leave us alone. Calling them a "stalker" is an abomination for those who really are going through something very real and very scary.
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Registered: 03-16-2006
In reply to: juliara2003
Sun, 08-27-2006 - 10:38am
Umm, OK.
heather 5-18-10
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Registered: 03-16-2006
In reply to: juliara2003
Sun, 08-27-2006 - 10:44am

You don't HAVE to say that!

heather 5-18-10

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