another mess....

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Registered: 03-26-2003
another mess....
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Tue, 06-14-2005 - 10:13am
what have I gotten myself into now....another guy I met on Craigslist wants to meet this Saturday (we've been emailing for about 3 weeks, he lives 2 hrs away). But the conversations have really turned 'sexual' and I'm not comfortable, so I politely sent him an email saying that Saturday is not going to work, that I would like to meet someone closer to where I live and that I'm not looking for a long distance relationship. He emailed back saying that if we 'clicked' he'd move closer to me, that he wants a relationship, that he'd drive to my town on Saturday if that was the problem...way too over eager!!!!
Alittle scary..
so should I just let it go and block him ??

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: donna710
Tue, 06-14-2005 - 10:28am
Yes.
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Registered: 06-01-2005
In reply to: donna710
Tue, 06-14-2005 - 10:46am

Hello Donna-


His only interest in getting together with you is to have sex.

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Registered: 10-17-2002
In reply to: donna710
Tue, 06-14-2005 - 11:45am

You've got some HUGE red flags and you are not feeling comfortable. Just tell him that you are not a match, block and move on. You'll have to be more direct and clear than "Saturday is not going to work." That makes it sound like you still want to meet him even with the not wanting a LDR comment. When you give excuses like that, they will always try to talk you out of it. Be more blunt and just say that you do not think it will work between you and maybe even throw in amjay's comment of "and please see this as final" and then block. I hope he doesn't have your # or know where you live!

Gotta be careful with those Craigslist guys! CGUN got lucky and found a normal one actually looking for a relationship but that is definitely NOT the norm.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: donna710
Tue, 06-14-2005 - 11:59am
thanks..he does have my cell # and in one of his emails he said "I think about you each and every day and I call you but only to get your voice mail"..
hint..that's because I don't want to talk to you!
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Registered: 03-17-2005
In reply to: donna710
Tue, 06-14-2005 - 12:40pm
What the heck? Girl, ya gotta be smarter. You have the power to steer a conversation, block a guy who's overstepping boundaries, and not give out your phone number until you're comfortable. Why do you do these things? Me confused.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: donna710
Tue, 06-14-2005 - 12:44pm
..because I'm stupid!!! and naive....I'll be the first to admit it...
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Registered: 03-17-2005
In reply to: donna710
Tue, 06-14-2005 - 12:49pm
You've been here a while. You've been onlining a while. Why is nothing sinking in? I'm scared you're gonna get yourself into something you can't get out of and then we can't help you.
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Registered: 06-01-2005
In reply to: donna710
Tue, 06-14-2005 - 12:50pm
Well you have us to keep you grounded!!

CL-Truewild1969



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Registered: 12-07-2004
In reply to: donna710
Tue, 06-14-2005 - 1:12pm

You are one straight shooting person.
I swear if she has this meeting she will let this guy lay her.

I can see the zombie syndrome already.

then she will agonise about the disaster.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: donna710
Tue, 06-14-2005 - 1:15pm
thanks for the encouragement...geeze...give me alittle credit..
I'm not going to meet him!

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