another mess....

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Registered: 03-26-2003
another mess....
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Tue, 06-14-2005 - 10:13am
what have I gotten myself into now....another guy I met on Craigslist wants to meet this Saturday (we've been emailing for about 3 weeks, he lives 2 hrs away). But the conversations have really turned 'sexual' and I'm not comfortable, so I politely sent him an email saying that Saturday is not going to work, that I would like to meet someone closer to where I live and that I'm not looking for a long distance relationship. He emailed back saying that if we 'clicked' he'd move closer to me, that he wants a relationship, that he'd drive to my town on Saturday if that was the problem...way too over eager!!!!
Alittle scary..
so should I just let it go and block him ??

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Registered: 12-07-2004
In reply to: donna710
Tue, 06-14-2005 - 1:19pm
Good.
brutal approach sometimes work
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Registered: 03-18-2005
In reply to: donna710
Tue, 06-14-2005 - 1:26pm

No worries Donna – that’s why it’s a cell # with caller id – he’ll eventually get the hint.

 
 
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Registered: 10-17-2002
In reply to: donna710
Tue, 06-14-2005 - 2:34pm
ICK! That is too creepy Donna. Yeah, I'd make sure this guy gets the message loud and clear. You have no intention of meeting him, do not want to talk or email with him anymore, etc. He sounds like one that might not go away or take hints too easily tho so you will probably have to tell him instead of just ignoring him. It's never fun, but at this stage since you haven't even met, an email is perfectly appropriate to just say "I don't EVER want to meet you, you weirdo!" (of course more tactfully!) then block him. And Thank God for Caller ID! :-)

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Registered: 02-07-2005
In reply to: donna710
Tue, 06-14-2005 - 3:36pm

Hi Donna,

I am so glad you aren't going to meet him! I had a coffee meet with a guy last night and what he said reminded me some of this guy you are talking about.

The guy I met with was telling me about a stalker-type girl that he dated, who right away wanted to move to his town and then in with him! He said she was a nurse and seemed normal, but he soon found out that she wasn't, after a couple of dates. After he told her it wouldn't work, she kept emailing and calling him many times each day. Finally he had to be blunt with her and she finally got the message. But he said it was very strange and not a situation he ever wants to experience again.

Weirdos come in normal looking bodies also. I wish they had some type of neon sign that would flash on their forehead pronouncing them a WEIRDO!!!

I think whenever they are so quick to want to jump into moving closer to you, seeing you exclusively right away, etc. it just can't be ignored that something is wrong with them. Sure they may be lonely, but aren't all of us to some extent or we wouldn't be doing this OLD stuff, but desperate is much different from normal! That guy was a definite deperate one!

Donna you need to say to yourself daily, "I am a great person and I deserve to have a great guy in my life!" And you HAVE to believe it! Whatever we feel we deserve in life is what transpires, so if we think we can only get loser types, that is surely what comes to us. Think the positive thoughts lady and it will happen!

Sunshine

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Registered: 10-27-2003
In reply to: donna710
Tue, 06-14-2005 - 4:25pm

Donna, If you think he's not going to go away quietly, be sure you keep his number in your cell phone for a while so you'll know it's him if he calls and you can let it go to voice mail instead of being blindsided by a call from an unknown number. I made the mistake of erasing a guy's number to soon once.... Once was enough.

Libra

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: donna710
Wed, 06-15-2005 - 10:12am

so I sent him a "not meeting you on Saturday, good luck to you" type email and this was his response - " But why? What's the matter with me?".....well I think he answered his own question.

he's been blocked!!

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Registered: 06-01-2005
In reply to: donna710
Wed, 06-15-2005 - 10:16am
Excellent!

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Registered: 10-26-2004
In reply to: donna710
Wed, 06-15-2005 - 1:23pm

Geezo Y'all, Give the Chick a Break!

Have not Many of us been where She is right now? Please do not feel that you are stupid because you are a good person, with a trusting heart, those are Wonderful attributes. But...you have to save all of that God Stuff for a Real man with good intentions and a brain that is not found on Home Shopping network! These people Prey on 'nice' people. realize that you do Not owe him your good heart--that would be You playing 'fair' and he is Not, so level that playing field, take your toys and go Home.

This is Just how we learn here...it is when you do not take your Own advice, that it can get hinky. I think those here mean the best for you. I used to stand back and say "what advice would I give my best friend, if she came to me with this?"--then follow that path.

You are WAY worth more than this chunky monkey--Ding! Next!

Truly,
Cupcake

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Registered: 10-26-2004
In reply to: donna710
Wed, 06-15-2005 - 1:27pm

Hi D,

Tell your good pals, then change your cell message for a day or two:

"You have reached the offices of the (your state) Federal Bureau of Investigation, personal crimes unit. Please leave your number and a short message and an agent will reply, as soon as possible. Thank You"

....just kidding, but wouldn't this be fun?

Truly,
Cupcake

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Registered: 04-19-2004
In reply to: donna710
Wed, 06-15-2005 - 5:10pm
Or say I've changed my email it's now donna@papernapkin.net he'll get a nice formal rejection back. LOL

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