Another newbie introduction!

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Another newbie introduction!
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Tue, 07-01-2003 - 3:07pm
I just wanted to introduce myself - I've been poking my head in here once in a while, but thought I should probably say hi!

I've been reading everyone's stories and am so relieved to know that I'm not the only one who met their DB online. I'm the only one of my family/friends to have done that, so they are all a little skeptical. Nice to find a group of people that actually understand.

So here is my story...

Before I met Kelly I wasn't new to online dating. I was so busy with grad school a few years ago and not into bar-hopping, I decided to try online dating services. My criteria were pretty specific and I talked to many guys online and met several, but there was absolutely no chemistry. Either my criteria were wrong, or the online dating thing wasn't for me, I didn't know. But I gave up.

Then last year I met a sailor on deployment through a military morale penpal program. I'd been a member of this program for years as a way to help lonely sailors/soldiers and to pass the time. I never planned on meeting anyone to start a relationship. But we just connected in a way I never expected. He was everything I wasn't interested in - military, older, much taller, divorced, kids, not local - but he turned out to be everything I needed (I just didn't know it!) It was a couple of months before we could even talk on the phone - and that call was only about 2 minutes because the ship phone wasn't working. It was 4 months before we could meet, but 3 days after his ship docked, he arrived at my airport.

It was magic. I'm sure that sounds really corny, but it is the only way I can describe it. We had been careful not to say the 'L' word while we were emailing or chatting, because we wanted to be able to say it in person. I think we were able to last about 2 hours before saying it to each other! lol He didn't meet any of my friends that first weekend, but he met all of my friends 2 months after that. When I told them all later that we met online just a couple months previously, they were shocked. They thought we had been together for years.

It has been just over 12 months since that first email and 9 months since the first meeting. Even though there is 3000 miles of ocean between us, we manage to see each other every couple of months. The plan is for me to move there in January of next year after I finish my work here and find a job there.

So, there is my novel...lol!

And there is proof that it can definitely work - even if you aren't local, even if you don't meet immediately, and even if, at first glance, he isn't what you planned!

Debbie 29/BC DG to Kelly/39/HI/Navy

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Tue, 07-01-2003 - 3:29pm
Hello Debbie!!! SO happy you decided to come out of the shadows. WOW! That is such a wonderful story. You and Nicole's are just so sweet. I like what you said at the end about, it doesnt matter if you are not local or you cant meet immediately, it can work. Now that is so true. This is a great story. I am so happy you have joined our family. Now, you are moving to be with him in Janurary. Now, do you have children yourself, or have you been married? You said he was divorced with kids, how old are they?

You said BC? I am assuming that is British Columbia? I get in trouble when I assume thing, just ask Catherine. lol Well, congrats on the success story! Soon you will be ending you LDR and starting a life with Kelly. Goodluck and please feel free to dive in and post as much as you like!!!

Gail

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Tue, 07-01-2003 - 3:53pm
Thanks for the welcome!

No, I have never been married and don't have any children, though Kelly and I already have our future children named! His kids are 9 and 12 and the greatest. I met them at New Year's and in a couple of weeks we are taking them backpacking and sightseeing for two weeks in Montana, Vancouver and Seattle. They live with their mom now, but we are hoping once we get settled, they will come live with us.

Yes, BC is British Columbia. I work in Vancouver. It is absolutely beautiful here, and even though Hawaii is great, I am going to miss it here.

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Tue, 07-01-2003 - 4:32pm
Ok, well I am glad you have met his kids and like them. That is one thing I am worried about with Mark. WHat if my boys drive him so crazy he wants to go home?! LOL

No, really. Im happy for you and Kelly and the fact that you have names picked out already. SO fun!!! I love it. Good for you two!!

Gail

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Tue, 07-01-2003 - 5:01pm
Hi..and welcome, Deb!
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Tue, 07-01-2003 - 6:38pm
Congrats Debbie and welcome to the family!
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Tue, 07-01-2003 - 8:47pm
Welcome to the board! Thank you for sharing your story with us, its a good one :) I've always had a thing for military guys, I've dated a guy in the Marines and one in the Air Force. They're just so cute in those uniforms ;)

Lindsay

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Wed, 07-02-2003 - 3:38am
Hi Debbie and welcome to our family! Another great and ispiring story u have for all of us, Regards to you and Kelly!

~jen
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Wed, 07-02-2003 - 5:52am
Hi Debbie and welcome!

Always good to see that there are success stories available. Makes it easier to explain the "miracle" to have found your love online to others who sometimes just think you are crazy. Especially when it's over long-distance in addition to that. I am from Germany, my SO is Canadian like you are, so we also have to cross an ocean if we want to meet.

While reading your post I have just realized that I have never really introduced myself when I started posting at this board. That's how we Germans are, always kind of rude I guess ;-).

So sorry to everybody, even if I already shared a lot of information within the posts, here are my basics:

Nicole, 33/Germany and Rob, 34/ON especially for Gail: that means Ontario ;-)