Another one bites the dust...

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Registered: 11-08-2003
Another one bites the dust...
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Sun, 09-04-2005 - 10:59am

I posted about a bad first date a few months ago. Move forward to last Tuesday when I met a guy from OLD. We met for coffee and ended up chatting for about 2 1/2 hours. Lots in common, similar interests, the spark was apparently there for us both. He asked me out again and we made plans to golf on Saturday morning. He sent me an e-mail on Thursday evening saying he found me very intelligent and attractive and was really looking forward to meeting again. He e-mailed me on Friday late afternoon to say he had been to the driving range and was going to have to cancel our golf date as his wrist was causing him trouble. He didn't propose an alternate activity and ended with I'd still like to see you again and put the ball in my court to get in touch. My first thought was "when hell freezes over". An hour later he IM's me and apologizes for cancelling and asks if lunch on Sunday would work. I agreed and he said he would be in touch on Saturday to fix a time and place. Saturday comes and goes and nothing. This morning (Sunday) he e-mails me at about 9:00 to say he can't make lunch. He doesn't know what he wants, enjoyed meeting me, etc, but had to sort things out.

I met a friend of a friend last night and it turns out she had gone out with this guy about a month ago and he did the same thing to her. I replied to his e-mail this morning by saying, "Thanks for the late notice, but I had no intention of meeting for lunch today. I must have forgotten to mention it but courteous and reliable are also qualities I look for in a partner."

Was this too snarky? I am almost ready to give up on OLD. This guy was the first person I've met (about 10 in total) that I left thinking wow, this has real potential. I am very disappointed but not overly surprised.

Thanks for listening.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-03-2004
Sun, 09-04-2005 - 11:24am
I love your reply to him. Now block him and forget about him. He may want to engage in more conversations and waste more of your time.
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Registered: 05-23-2005
Sun, 09-04-2005 - 11:45am

Hehehe...I thought your reply was great. Unfortunately that kind of guy seems to be all over OLD. All I can say is just hang in there because all it takes is one person to make all of this crap and frustration worth it. That's what I gotta keep telling myself. I've had a few disappointments from OLD too but I've also learned some things from each of these situations.

Good Luck,
Chele

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Registered: 11-08-2003
Sun, 09-04-2005 - 11:50am
Thanks Amjay and Chele. Although i haven't met anyone to date yet, I did meet one man that I get along famously with and we golf together most weekends. It was his girlfriend that I met last night that had a similar experience with the same man. I value friends and friendships very much and if I get nothing else out of OLD, I have made a good friend and that makes it a worthwhile experience.
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Registered: 09-02-2003
Tue, 09-06-2005 - 4:52pm

I loved your response, and I think that there are some people (men and women) that use OLD just to meet people online but don't have any intentions of ever meeting them in real life.

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Registered: 02-19-2004
Tue, 09-06-2005 - 6:46pm

I'll be the lone desenter and say I think your response was a little snotty and unecessary.

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