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| Sat, 04-16-2005 - 2:11pm |
So, I am set up to see this girl on monday night.
She cancelled thursday, but it did seem legitamate, so I held out.
I was supposed to be on a business trip until Sun morning.
But, I ended up getting back at 1 am Friday night.
I send her a message, I came back early. This is like 12.01 am
this morning saturday.
She tells me, oh, its sure hard getting up with people's schedules,
I'll see you when I get back from kentucky (like the 29th).
Now...Keep in mind 1. she rescheduled a date already,
2. I notified her I was TWO days early back from my trip,
3. she went to highschool with my best friend's wife, but,she does
not know that. 3. Does not detract from my story.
So, we had a definate date scheduled for monday night.
It seems to me 1. She either never had plans to show up,
or 2. She has me confused with somebody else.
Because, again, I notified her I came back EARLY.
There is no reason to say oh we can get together in May...when I am saying
hey, I came back EARLY.
I'd appreciate your input.
But I can tell you, 99%, she's on ignore.

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Thank you.
I didn't realize my email was confusing.
No, I didn't expect her to drop her life because I came back early.
Maybe I just should not have sent an email at all.
This, I agree with you.
I will be there tomorrow at 6 pm, sure.
Yes, having lived half my life japanese style, i'd say
saving face is very important to me.
VERY IMPORTANT
But the thing is I really, really liked her, so, I'll do the
best I can to recover on this one.
I appreciate everyone's help.
I'd actually say, this one, I actually DID like very much.
That does not mean much to you.
I ask a girl out maybe once every 4-5 months.
Hmmm...do you only take advice when it comes from a guy ;-)??? (I said the exact same thing NGOL did about your email being confusing.)
So, this is someone you know IRL, not from online?
Sheri
I noted your advice actually :)
This is all online advice.
Although I'll pick up some IRL advice on monday
from Tom, who, looks like adrian paul....
And as I have said, last I kinda heard, I'll be there
at 6 pm, which I need to eat anyway.
Ok, then I'm confused yet again (it must be that darn jet lag!!!)...you said you "really, really liked her". Have you met her yet? It was my impression that this was to be a first meeting...so how can you "really, really like her" if you haven't even met her yet???
Sheri
DEVIL!!!!
LOL
really really liked her,
means
I didn't put her on ignore LOL
See, everybody has different ideas.
Your idea of really really like might mean he came over, changed
the oil in your car, fixed the trim between your living room and kitchen,
mowed the grass in a cross stitch manner, and took everybody in the house
to see les miserable.....
My idea of really really liked her, means,
she didn't steal $25000, didn't show up with her boyfriend on our
first date, etc etc etc
Well, no, my idea of "really, really liking" someone is having dated them steadily for a while and gotten to KNOW them in person and liking what I see based on our in-person interaction over the course of several weeks if not months (although, heck, I'm always up for seeing Les Mis ;-)!!)
How do you *know* she didn't steal $25K (or anything else about her, really)? If you've had one date with her, you don't "know" her at all yet and if I were on the receiving end of that sentiment, it would kind of freak me out for someone to be saying they "really, really liked me" after one date (I know you're telling us, not her, I'm just saying...). That *is* good that she didn't bring her BF on your first date though ;-).
As we tell everyone on this board, it really works best to keep your expectations LOW until you've spent quite a bit of time together in person. Be enthusiastic, of course, but also be realistic.
Sheri
I am speaking in general, and of course with so many ppl here,
in general does not work well.
I admit my mistake.
Really really like her means: in the end,
I DID NOT PUT HER ON IGNORE LOL
Maybe. I dunno.
I dunnot anymore.
Really.
She's rescheduled twice now...
I will not ask her out, email her, whatever, again.
If she comes back from KY and says hey let's get together,
I'll move planet earth to do so.
But otherwise: WELCOME TO INGORE LOL
>>Yes, having lived half my life japanese style, i'd say saving face is very important to me.<<
Well, I'd say you're going to have to give that up a bit, because dating is rough- and OLD can be even rougher.
I agree OLD is not easy.
I sent her a message saying I want to see her,
contact me when she gets back next week.
this will be close to a month, if we ever get together in
RL.
I don't expect to see her.
Just being realistic.
If the planning/emails go over 2 weeks, then that is that.
"I will not ask her out, email her, whatever, again."
This is from #18. Why did you change your mind?
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