Another question regarding my "ghost"
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Another question regarding my "ghost"
| Wed, 10-26-2005 - 6:03pm |
At what point am I kidding myself that he and I have a friendship? I do believe that I have resigned myself that our friendship is the only relationship between us. When I was scheduled for surgery on my C- Spine in 2001 he told me that he would check with me the day before my surgery and guess what? He called me that afternoon. That is another reason why I don't let him go because I do consider him a friend. Am I still kidding myself.
BTW: Thank you all for the responses. I am open to anything even if it's something that I don't want to hear because I need to hear it. I need impartial opinions and I think I am asking so many questions because I know I am close to letting go. Just trying to keep the perspective.
Thanks all!!
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Hi,
(Funny username by the way, lol.)
He sounds kinda like my ex-boyfriend that I dated for 5 months..unreliable.This guy was so unreliable and irresponsible. He would stand me up every week on dates, show up 4 hours, 5 hours, to 3 days late when we made plans to do something, always borrowing money from me, I had no way of reaching him via-phone, and when he did call me it was only at his convenience and on his time schedule. Yes, he had his nice "moments" and was sweet to me on occassion, gave me roses, and took me out to eat, and just when I started to get a sense of hope that he was changing and just this time he was going to be better BAM...he was back to his old self again. Old habits die hard.
Basically what I'm saying is, this guy may be an overall nice guy, and have his sweet moments by calling you when you had your surgery operation, but where is he all the other times? (I read your other thread too). Is that "1" time that he was there, worth all the 99.9% of the times that he wasn't there for you? It's a big headache, and it gets old fast. And trust me, he will not change because he doesn't think there is anything wrong with what he is doing to you...if he did, and if he cared about you, he'd change. PERIOD.
Do you think you may be holding on to some excuse to continue keeping in contact with him by justifying his actions? I did the same thing w/my recent ex...
Just my opinions, you don't have to take my advice but whatever you decide to do, good luck to you! :)