Any hope for quiet guys?
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Any hope for quiet guys?
| Tue, 06-27-2006 - 9:38pm |
I am not a talkative person at all... I was talking to a girl for months that I met via myspace and we went from myspace messages.. to yahoo instant messanger... to the phone... then back down to text messages... and occasional short yahoo sessions. To make a long story short without getting into a bunch of crap that i've already gotten into on the LDR forum... I could never hold a conversation very well with her and she always blamed me. is there any way for a quiet guy to make a girl want to meet him? sometimes she even told me I needed to go to counseling to learn social skills besides just to "treat" my depression... anyway will anyone like me the way I am or am I supposed to be ashamed of myself and try to force myself to change....?

I'm sorry, but that chick sounds like a horrible person to have said something that mean to you about going to a counselor to learn social skills!
Well, that girl doesn't sound like someone I'd want to talk to anyway. In terms of your conversational skills, or lack thereof, all I can say is that the best conversationalists are also the best listeners. Not just keeping quiet while the other person talks, but really listen to what the other person is saying, taking cues from them and composing your own questions or responses
I’m dating a guy who’s not that talkative and we were talking about this issue last few times in our phone calls and emails. We met a few months ago in person and then he moved to another state so now it’s long distance and harder to communicate since he’s not that talkative specially on the phone. But it doesn’t make me like him less. He’s a kind and very nice person and that’s what matters to me the most. I try to ask him questions about the things he’s interested in. It makes him feel more comfortable and give him the confidence to talk more. That’s why I think if she really cared she would find a way to get to know you better by being creative and helping you to open up.
Falcon