Any luck with online dating?

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Registered: 11-06-2005
Any luck with online dating?
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Wed, 11-23-2005 - 4:00pm
Does anyone have luck with online dating?
Or am I the only one who always ends up with a jerk? I tried match.com, and got dates and went out with couple of them. But it had happened to me several times that we would go on dates for 3-4 times and that's it. Won't hear from the guy again but it seems like he is still active with his profile. Same happened again with my last date that I met online. Does it happened to others with online dating, too? Or am I the only one who cant hold on to a guy? :(
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Registered: 03-18-2005
Wed, 11-23-2005 - 5:05pm

First rule of thumb do not take dating personally – bottom line. You’ve had guys you’ve dated 2-4 times and realize long term you wouldn’t make a good fit so cut your losses now not later especially if you’re like most of us that are marriage minded, not lets date casually minded. It takes time; dating is a process so try to enjoy the journey and try not to get too emotionally invested until you have an exclusive dating talk and always keep your options open too. Remember, confidence is key and think you know what I’m the lucky one, they didn’t waste my time and I found out sooner rather than later which means your next relationship is even closer then before.

Good luck!
Peanut

 
 
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Registered: 02-15-2005
Wed, 11-23-2005 - 5:39pm
I wasn't very lucky few months back, the same thing kept happening to me, 4th date and you are out. Until lately, I found someone who's very nice and he's even counting the dates we've spent together! I take that as a good sign, I am always crossing my fingers that this one is for real. Don't feel discourage, your turn will come.
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Registered: 11-23-2005
Thu, 11-24-2005 - 3:13pm
I have been doing online dating a loooong time and I have had virtually no luck whatsoever. It is just as tough for us guys. The problem I seem to keep running into is women going back to their ex's. It's happened at least three or four times to me where we'll get to the point to we're interested in each other and just on the verge of becoming exclusive and poof, their ex- walks in and steals the show. The other problem is that often when you're doing the online dating thing you can guarantee that everyone is talking to probably 3 or 4 people and maybe even going on dates with all of them. That can make it very difficult to know exactly where you fit in, and can make for some difficult decision making later on. I've never really been able to date more than one person at a time because I have a hard time dividing up my attention equally and I always feel like someone ends up getting short-changed.
On the other hand it's nice to know that all the people are (or at least should be) single. That saves a lot of time and effort right there in itself. Plus you can look for similar interests and so forth. So there's upsides and downsides to it.
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Registered: 11-06-2005
Thu, 11-24-2005 - 3:32pm
Thanks for the answers! I'm just upset coz I dont understand, why they just end everything after the first date. If you dont like a person and dont think that person is suitable for you, then end it after the first date. Why are they still going out with you for several more dates?
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Thu, 11-24-2005 - 3:47pm

Most likely, because it takes more than one date to make that decision. In fact, it can take months. That's what dating is all about.

Sheri

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Registered: 05-12-2005
Thu, 11-24-2005 - 7:22pm
I tried it for a few months, I am the same way, I would just concentrate on one guy at a time, I just wouldn't have the time or energy for 3 or 4. But I have a really tight schedule right now, so I think that may have contributed to not having success with OLD. But it's funny you should say that about women going back to their ex's. That is exactly what I did. I am divorced and for two years my ex asked to get back together. We don't get along living together, but just seeing each is fine. It's like it's all good times like it was at the beginning. As an added bonus, I don't have to worry how my kids will accept him, cause they are his kids too. But they don't see us together though.