"Any" under marital status

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"Any" under marital status
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Thu, 03-17-2005 - 4:26pm

I've been browsing profiles and I've noticed that some of the men list "any" as a potential date's marital status. It makes me think these guys are looking for the "booty call".

Am I being too harsh here? Do guys just fill these out and sometimes don't notice?

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Thu, 03-17-2005 - 4:30pm

No, I agree - there are way too many people who leave "any" as the default selections under "my match".

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Registered: 07-24-2004
Thu, 03-17-2005 - 5:27pm

When I first posted my profile, I'd checked "any" for what I was looking for because it never occurred to me that MARRIED would be one of the options!! "Who would admit that they were married?", was what I was thinking.

My friend pointed out to me that it's a pop-up list and you individually choose "divorced", "never married", whatever.

So maybe the guys are just being blonde like me! (but somehow I suspect not...)

Tracy

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Registered: 08-19-2004
Fri, 03-18-2005 - 8:22am
Tracy - I did the same thing, when I first signed up (and I'm not even blond). It was only when a married guy contacted me and pointed out that I had put "any" that I thought "oops, better change that."
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Registered: 07-03-2004
Fri, 03-18-2005 - 8:31am
I like to weed out "separated" so I chose all that applied. However, with Tickle.com divorced and separated are listed together! I have a feeling I'm in the minority in viewing separated as "not quite done" with the ex.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 03-18-2005 - 9:53am
I also find it interesting when a guy puts "No Answer" down as his status (not divorced, separated, widowed, committed relationships but now single). I find that odd. It makes me wonder if they're married but sneaking around. I'm not comfortable with 'separated' either. Too many loose strings not tied.
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Registered: 02-07-2005
Fri, 03-18-2005 - 10:01am

I avoid the separated guys also...their relationship issues just
are not completed to me. If you're not divorced then you're actually
still married.

I also avoid the guys who have not filled in the marital status as I've
found those guys are usually married and just looking for some side action.

I also notice many don't fill in if they have children or not. Strange.
Do they think women don't notice the things they have avoided filling in???

Sunshine

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Fri, 03-18-2005 - 10:19am
Of course they think that! :-) They don't read women's profiles so I think they assume that women don't read men's either! Haven't they figured out that women read and overanalyze every little detail, because of course we do!

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Registered: 02-07-2005
Fri, 03-18-2005 - 10:54am

Hi Vexer,

Yes we DO read the profiles and yes we DO overanalyze things! It's just how we are! But I'm glad that I am how I am! My ex husband hated that I would analyze things, but he wouldn't take the time to think about anything very much! Yes, he was a definite - NEXT, it just took me awhile to realize that!

Sunshine

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Registered: 12-10-2004
Fri, 03-18-2005 - 3:24pm

Guys are often idiots. :)

But I'm with you- I can't believe how many people don't pay attention to that part of a profile, or think they're being clever in putting "not answered" or something like that.

Personally, I always run my searches with the "separated" and "married" people filtered out so I never even see them.

Every so often when I would do an "online now" search, I might see a really cute gal, read her profile, she seems really cool, why didn't I see her before, she must be new... oh, wait, she's separated (ie, STILL MARRIED). NEXT!