Anybody else have this problem?

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Registered: 05-23-2006
Anybody else have this problem?
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Thu, 06-01-2006 - 12:35am

The other day I was contacted by a man in his mid 30s (I'm 22 and fairly mature for my age so I don't mind hanging out with an older crowd), so I thought, "Why not?"

So we chat online for the first time today, and he automatically assumes that I'm only looking for a sexual relationship by making sexual remarks. Why is that? Is it because of the age difference?
(This is probably the 2nd time this has happened to me, and nowhere on my profile have I stated that I want a f*&$ buddy.)

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Thu, 06-01-2006 - 4:27pm

It's probably nothing to do with the age difference....

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Registered: 05-23-2006
Thu, 06-01-2006 - 5:01pm

Well I'm not particularly offended 'cause a) he doesn't even know me, and b) he doesn't know what I really look like (i.e. *if* I dressed provocatively and he assumed that I was an easy lay, then I'd be insulted).

It's just weird. From what he has told me thus far (and who knows if he's telling the truth), he's a vet with a PhD! How can a man with a PhD still act like such a chauvinistic pig? Or am I just being naive?

I have told him a few times already that "it's ALL in head!" But it's literally talking to a brick wall (ironically, his msn avatar is a picture of a brick wall...lol). I'm beginning to doubt his academic credentials.

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Registered: 02-01-2005
Thu, 06-01-2006 - 8:46pm

The biggest sex hound I ever dated was a guy with a PhD in microbiology. No joke.

Anyway, I don't think it's the age difference - some men are just like that, and OLD brings them out in droves.







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Registered: 05-06-2006
Thu, 06-01-2006 - 10:14pm

Do you mean Vet as in veterinarian or Vet as in Veteran?

In any case, getting a high academic degree does not guarantee sexual self-restraint, good manners or even common sense. A PhD is just as likely to be crude and rude as someone with no higher education at all.

This guy is obviously a boor. What I don't understand is why you don't tell him to go away and block him from your e-mail, im, etc.