anyone actually sold on online dating?
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| Tue, 12-19-2006 - 3:34pm |
I have an acct on match.com. I have met four guys so far. But I gotta say, I am really not buying into the whole online dating thing. Case in point.
First guy lies to me by posting a picture of his friend, and his excuse is that he believes they resemble each other. Second guy is a little more forthcoming, posting a picture of himself ten years ago. Third guy is ok but not for me.
A lot of these articles on this website praise online dating. But they don't make any mention of the fact that NONE of these so called personal websites do background checks on these people and that it is extremely easy to lie and be lied to.
Fourth guy seems alright, but I'm considering of doing a background check on him. Is this a good thing to do or am I being overly paranoid? Maybe people who have been sucessful can give me some advice.

Well, unfortunately most of the folks that have been successful have moved on to the other boards cuz they don't need us anymore! ;-) We have had a number of success stories out here including a few marriages from people that have met online. Then there are others (like me) that have been doing it years with little success.
I think it can work - I know people for whom it has. Am I sold on it? No, probably not. Will I continue to give it a shot because it's hard to meet people another way? Yeah.
I've never done a background check on anyone I've met through OLD. Maybe I should have, but for the most part, the guys I've met have been who they said they were, even if we weren't a match.
I like OLD because in my "regular" life and at my age (48), I just don't meet many single men in person or through friends. So OLD gives me options I wouldn't have otherwise. So the fact that it exposes me to men I wouldn't meet in "real" life makes it a success in my eyes, even if I haven't found a guy who's right for me as yet.
Sheri
OLD has been a crap shoot for me. Like you, at my age, its difficult living in the small town where I do to meet a quality person for dating. Yeah, there are success stories, but I would imagine that relative to the number that don't work, the percentages are small. Dating was so much easier when I was in school, but then again, there was a large number of girls my age (or there about)to choose from. I would imagine that it might be easier to find dates in a larger city, but I would imagine that the percentages of quality/no quality would be about the same, so it would still be difficult to find that great person.
Merry Christmas everyone...
Jim
Yep, that's me, I have no interests and am not interesting at all. A total loser! Ask any of my friends, they'll tell ya.
Too funny.
Sheri
Edited 12/20/2006 1:46 am ET by northwestwanderer
"Don't be a pot calling the kettle black, looking for green pastures when you don't mow your own lawn."
I like the reference to looking for green pastures when you don't mow your own lawn!
Kristen
I have two sets of friends married from old and another with her BF of a year and a half so like anything in life - go in with the attitude that anything is possible because it is!
OLD - you'd be surprised once your on it - or course you'll meet dishonest people - I just had some guy a few weeks ago writing me saying some woman used my pictures to meet men out and he was one of them, he said the only thing we had in common was our blonde hair, LOL however i felt violated someone would steal my pictures so I asked him her handle to report her but unfortunately she already deleted her profile so trust me - it comes with the territory.
With that so though I have met some fantastic guys as well as not so fantastic.