Anyone ever do 2 first meets in 1 night?

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Anyone ever do 2 first meets in 1 night?
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Sat, 02-19-2005 - 2:47pm

I'm sure some of you have - did it work? Or too risky? I'm thinking perhaps one bennie would be a limited amount of time to spend with each, perhaps then getting to a first date to continue.... and also, getting to wear the same "first meet" nice outfit for both....

What would be some negatives? I'm good at keeping names and details straight (unlike some others I've been out with....) and especially because I limit my contact to be with only two or three people max at one time.

Just curious as to your opinion as I will be on business many eves this week and I'm thinking about scheduling a first meet back-to-back with the not-so-good-first-phone-call dude's first meet.

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Sat, 02-19-2005 - 3:01pm

I haven't...but I have done more than one first meeting in a weekend, and now I pretty much limit first meetings to one a week. For me, they are just too *exhausting*...it's a huge effort to make conversation with a stranger and answer the same old, same old "small talk" questions about myself, so to have to do more than one in a row wouldn't work.

Sheri

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Sat, 02-19-2005 - 3:04pm
Okay, thanks. Actually since I posted that, the thought of it has been making me a little anxious. So that's a bad sign I think. I'm definitely not going to do this - hopefully one of them will believe me that I'll be away on business and would like to get together the following week.
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Sat, 02-19-2005 - 3:21pm
You are planning to lie?
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Sat, 02-19-2005 - 3:37pm
NO! If you re-read my first post, the whole reason I was going to try to squeeze them both into one night was because I am going to be away on business a few nights this coming week! BUT SEE WHAT I MEAN!? YOU thought it was a LIE!!! It's the truth!!!! SEE!? I guess it just doesn't sound believeable, but it is true! THAT is why I wanted to meet both in one night!!!
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Sat, 02-19-2005 - 3:38pm

Please don't ruin my view of women too. Do NOT lie.

Lisa

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Sat, 02-19-2005 - 3:40pm

"...hopefully one of them will believe me that I'll be away on business and would like to get together the following week."

Why wouldn't they believe you if it's true?

Lisa

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Sat, 02-19-2005 - 3:41pm

wait - I re-read my first post, and the word "away" isn't there. The last paragraph should say "away" on business. Sorry about that....

Okay, so do people usually believe that stuff? I mean, it *is* true, but is that a turn off for someone? To be postponed a week? Not that I really give a hoot, since it's with a "questionable" first meet anyway, but I'm just curious - in general....

then again, who really gives a darn - because if someone doesn't believe me, and I'm telling the truth, I'll just next! um.

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Sat, 02-19-2005 - 3:42pm
No no! I'm NOT!! I'm NOT LIEING! It was a typo in the first post! The word "away" should be in the last paragraph!!!
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Sat, 02-19-2005 - 3:43pm

Yeah, I dunno. It was sort of a dumb thought on my part. If the guy isn't understanding, or trusting, then that type of person isn't my type anyway....

thanks for the reality check

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Sat, 02-19-2005 - 4:03pm

ROFL -- it seems I didn't get what you were saying!

Can I just point out something -- not a criticism just an observation. You seem to make decisions fast and then do the thinking after. This leads to back peddling on the previous decision. I think your dating life would run a lot smoother if you were to take your time. Easy if you are being asked out by email. You can then stop, think, plan. If asked over the phone it's a little harder. If I'm not positive about the date, I usually say that I have tentative plans set with a friend, could I get back to you tonight?

I've read quite a few posts here on this board where a date was either cancelled or forestalled because the guy was going away on business. I don't recall anyone being upset about it. This must happen frequently to anyone who leaves town for work.

amjay

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