anysuggestions for staying safe with old
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anysuggestions for staying safe with old
| Thu, 08-03-2006 - 12:44pm |
So new to this. How long should you wait b/f telling someone your last name? Just trying to be safe. Also, I worry that they could get information from my license plate ... What are some other ways to stay safe with all of this?
Lisa
Lisa

Hi Lisa. First, the license plate question. I am not sure how anyone would be able to get your personal information unless they had a connection at the State who gave away personal information. That information is supposed to be confidential...unless you're in law enforcement or something like that.
Now, as far as revealing your last name...I have not given out my last name until it got to the point that I felt comfortable with a man...and that was after several meetings and they already knew where I lived.
Be safe and good luck!
Katie
I actually worried about the license plate thing when I briefly dated a cop I met online in college. Then I figured if he was really that screwed up, there wasn't much I could do about it anyway.
So - now, I usually don't tell them my last name until I've been on a few dates and they know where I live. Really, a last name just helps them find where you live, so if you've already trusted them with that info, a last name shouldn't hurt. I only use a cell phone, so I don't have a listed number, but there are other ways to find my address with my last name. And people have before - so I just avoid that all together.
Other than that - meet in public places, let someone know where you are going, don't get in his car, common sense type things.
Actually, it's not all that difficult for someone to get personal information from a license plate, and you don't need to be in law enforcement to find out. Anyone involved in private investigation and sometimes even collections is able to get this information. So if someone you are dating has a connection to someone with access to this database, it's fairly easy.
I am friends with someone who has such access, and has done some research for me in the past whether by license plate or name and birthdate (even approximate), on people I was seeing.
So yes, it's highly possible.
I'd suggest meeting in an area where there is lots of parking such as a mall. As another poster suggested in a different post, in this way, when your date is over- you can say you have some shopping to do and he won't be as inclined to walk you to your car. The key thing would obviously be to schedule your date a bit earlier in the day before the stores close :)