Are we actually IN a relationship??
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|Tue, 07-08-2003 - 11:12am|
At the end of April I met a guy online, though Match.com. He saw my profile, instant messaged me and we began to talk. We talked a couple of weeks online and then I gave him my phone number. We started talking on the phone, and about a week after that we met. He came to see me ( he lives 1 ½ hrs) away. We had dinner and drinks and it went well. I was leaving the country after that for 2 weeks, but we talked all while I was gone and got together as soon as I got back. We have been together every weekend since I usually drive the 1.5 hrs, we are intimate and I have met some of his friends, and we talk everyday.
A about 3 weeks ago we had a conversation about our ‘relationship’ some of the things he said were “I’m not sure I want more of a relationship than we have now”, “I’m not sure I’m up for another disaster or I want someone telling me what to do again”, and when I asked him to go to a birthday part with me for my friends he said “I’m not sure what my obligations are”. But, we agreed not to see anyone else because ‘he doesn’t do that’ and I don’t either and plus didn’t want to. At that point I understood he wasn’t sure what he wanted. I accepted that, though frankly since I met him on Match.com not sure why he even bothered if he didn’t. He mentioned something about now knowing it would work out like this.
That was about 3 weeks ago. We haven’t discussed it since. I have met some of his friends but none of his family. He has met my friends (he was at my place and they came over unexpected). We have talked about a beach trip together sometime this summer. He’s at the beach now with a buddy and has called me to check his email for him and things. We’ve had arguments like normal couples how he left me too long (45mins) to talk to his buddy outside and I was irritated and he said he’d not do it again and try to keep it to a time I thought was cool.
I’m a bit confused as to what exactly is going on here. I’m not sure if we are in something that is growing into a relationship, or we’re nowhere and I am making something out of nothing. I’m confused and I don’t really want to bring up the subject with him again because I don’t need a label… I just want some opinions.