Argh - question about winks!

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Registered: 08-07-2003
Argh - question about winks!
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Tue, 03-22-2005 - 10:19pm

I am just re-joining match after not having been active

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Avatar for northwestwanderer
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 03-22-2005 - 11:47pm

Oh, no...unfortunately, it's pretty horrible...it basically says something like, "so and so isn't interested in you, so keep looking". I deleted the one or two I got so I can't remember the exact language...but a bunch of us have come on here complaining about Match's poor choice of words.

Maybe someone else has the exact wording and can cut and paste it...

I would say nice to see you back...but I'm sorry things didn't work out with the last guy you dated!

Sheri

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 03-23-2005 - 9:22am
I sent a wink yesterday and got a generated reply today actually.
It says "***** has received your wink and reviewed your profile, but is not interested.".
Then it says "Don't get discouraged"... What a laugh.
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Registered: 05-16-2004
Wed, 03-23-2005 - 9:55am
I'll never send another "thanks but no thanks" again unless it's someone I've seen more than several times. The idiotic nastrgram that I received in response really doesn't justify the kindness. Exception might be for someone who emails me after a first meet - I don't think I'd ignore that.
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Registered: 10-17-2002
Wed, 03-23-2005 - 10:08am

Hey - I did this experiment with lg a couple weeks back because I was curious what it said too. Here is the text it sends when you send the "no thanks" to a wink:

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Email text = XXX received your wink and reviewed your profile, but is not interested.>>>

Not so very nice, huh? :-)

When you send the no thanks to an email you've received, it gives you more options and you can tell them WHY you don't think you are a match:

<<Thanks for writing to me, but unfortunately, we're just not a good match. Good luck in your search!

Our profiles didn't match on:

• Distance
• Values
• Age
• Lifestyle
• Physical Attraction
• Interests
• Personality
• Education/Profession/Income

Don't get discouraged! With millions of singles on Match.com, you're bound to find a few that aren't right for you. Don't let that stop you; instead, search for and contact other members who are waiting to meet you!
Tip: To increase your chances of making a true connection with someone, click Do we match? when viewing that member's profile. You'll see how well the two of you match up by comparing your profiles. If you're convinced you'll make a connection regardless, explain why in an email!

Other members who are similar to xxx, but may be a better match for you:

(3 profiles w/pictures)>>>

You can select any or all of the reasons listed in bullets - I selected all for our experiment to see what it did.

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Registered: 05-16-2004
Wed, 03-23-2005 - 10:14am
I'm still trying to recover from that rejection email you sent me...
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Registered: 10-17-2002
Wed, 03-23-2005 - 11:38am
Hey, the rejection to my wink was "snottier"! :-) But I guess I did reject you on all counts didn't I?

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Registered: 08-07-2003
Wed, 03-23-2005 - 11:39am

Yikes - "keep looking" as the subject!!!

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Wed, 03-23-2005 - 11:57am
Yeah, the wink reply is pretty harsh! But the part that I really "love" (sarcasm here) is that on the email one, you can reject someone for the reason of "Personality" or "Physcial Attraction". OUCH! I have sent that one once or twice when I have gotten multiple emails from one person or from someone that creeps me out a little and have either not elaborated or put the reason as "Age" since they were far out of my preferred age range.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 03-23-2005 - 12:11pm

Oh good, I'm glad you are able to have an "it's for the best" attitude about it not working out!

Things are ok with me, thanks for asking. I have a 4th date planned with a new guy from Match on Saturday...we've had great times together so far, so I'm cautiously optimistic! And a possible first meet with a guy from Yahoo on Sunday.

But my big news is that I'm heading to Vietnam on vacation next Tuesday for just over 2 weeks. I can't wait!

Sheri

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Registered: 08-07-2003
Wed, 03-23-2005 - 3:12pm

Woo hoo - have fun this weekend!

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