Article on dating over 40
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| Sun, 10-30-2005 - 9:35am |
This is in the Seattle Times this morning about men's views on dating after 40, and it's a follow up to a previous article (there's a link to the previous article as well):
http://seattletimes.nwsource.com/html/living/2002589853_datingmen30.html
There's a lot about OLD in both articles.
My two comments on today's article:
1. Thank you Craig Sawyer (one of the guys quoted in the article)--you get that it's just *conversation* when you ask someone what they do, not trying to find out what their bank account is like!
2. And to the guy who said some women seem too busy: maybe you should try getting a life and doing something besides watching TV every night--it might make you a more interesting date. That's probably my number one pet peeve about men my age: they lead BORING lives!
Sheri

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Sheri,
>Besides, if a guy isn't willing to take
>that risk to find out if *I* am interested
>I don't really want to date him.
This is a paradox. How would you know if he is:
a) Interested but not willing to take the risk to find out if you are?
or
b) Simply not interested?
In order to find out you would need to ask him wouldn't you? If he isn't interested then you won't get a date. If he is interested you wouldn't want to date him because he should have asked you first!
Hal, it doesn't really matter to me which it is. If he's not emotionally healthy enough to take the (small) risk of asking me out, he's not someone I'd be interested in dating.
Sheri
I tend to agree..but only to a certain extent. It depends on the guy, how long you've known him, etc. Again, nothing ventured, nothing gained, so I see nothing wrong with a woman asking a man out under certain circumstances. However, the amount of interest on "his" part should be evident later, meaning if he asks you out after you've asked him out.
A couple years ago, I had a very one-sided relationship with a guy where I seemed to do most of the asking out and he made very little effort. I should have quit long before I did with him, but I was so hung up on him, I couldn't see straight.
There are also men who are friends only..and are quite hesitant to ask a friend (who is a girl) out on a "real" date for fear that the girl will not want him for anything more than friendship. I've seen that scenario played out more than a few times, and also when it was the other way around (girl was more interested in the guy). So, it really depends on the situation, the people and circumstances. I personally don't like asking a guy out, but I have done it. It didn't always work out, but at least I can say I tried.
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