asked for my number never called?

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Registered: 12-18-2003
asked for my number never called?
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Sat, 10-14-2006 - 4:20am
hey all, this OLD is still very new to me. met a guy online, we emailed a bit, IM'd....he told me he wanted to chat on the phone and asked for my number. I gave it to him and two days later he hadn't called. saw he looked at my profile again so i dropped him an email just saying "just dropping by to say hi". he told me he's really sorry he hadn't called yet, had a crazy day had to go out of state didn't get back till late last night and he would call me later in the week. I told him no prob, call when he has a chance. that was 2 days ago. anyway, still nothing. should i just ignore him now? how long after people ask for your number do they usually use it? and would he send me an email saying he's sorry he hadn't called me yet he was out of town and he would call me later this week if he really wasn't going to? I see that he has been online a bunch since he last told me that. just asking because with this particular site i know it can be overwhelming and I get inundated with people contacting me, so people get lost in the mix. I was wondering if I should send another email just saying hey or at this point just forget it and let him contact me?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 10-14-2006 - 9:05am

I would just forget it. If he calls, he calls, but I wouldn't hold my breath if I were you. I'm sure if you sent him another email he'd just give you another excuse and he still wouldn't call. And yes, definitely people will give you the song and dance about why they haven't called and promise to call and then not do so. It's like they can't stand to have you think of them as a bad guy, so they will respond when you prod them, but then they won't follow through.

Sheri

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Registered: 12-18-2003
Sat, 10-14-2006 - 9:13am
darn, its too late. i already sent something. feel like a fool now I guess. not asking to call me, just telling him i liked his new picture. I am definately not holding my breath. i literally don't even think about it till i come across his picture online in a search or something. thank you for the advice
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 10-14-2006 - 9:46am

Eh, no need to feel foolish. Just don't be surprised if he responds to your email but still doesn't call. But he might call too...you never know. Just don't count on it!

Sheri

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Sat, 10-14-2006 - 2:25pm
I would just back off.

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Registered: 09-27-2004
Sat, 10-14-2006 - 5:28pm
I agree with the other posters. Online dating is a lot like this. People tend to write and then disappear, or call and never meet up with you, or even meet up with you once and say they had a good time but never call you again. It's par for the course with online dating unfortunately. I've learned to expect that these things will happen more often than not. There could be a million and one reasons why. If he really wants to meet up with you he will call, men don't need prodding when they really want to do something or meet up with a woman. Keep your other options open and don't count on any one person if you find that you are interested in other guys that are contacting you. This online dating stuff can be very annoying and frustrating at times but I guess if we want to meet the one we keep trying.