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Asked out in first email?!
| Tue, 05-09-2006 - 9:44pm |
I winked at a guy on match last night whose ad really knocked my socks off since we seem to have a lot in common and he's absolutely gorgeous. He winked back and emailed back in like an hour stating that we should meet up for drinks some time and he gave me his aol email. I've never been asked out that quickly. Does this mean he wants my phone number or should I give it to him only if he asks? I don't want to come off as desperate but for once, I don't mind giving my number right away to some guy on-line since I feel like we'll have plenty to talk about when we get on the phone. What do you all think?
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| Tue, 05-09-2006 - 10:12pm |
Just do what you're comfortable with. I don't think there's anything strange about asking for a date right off the bat. When I was doing OLD, this would happen to me every so often. If I was interested then I'd meet the men, if not, I'd say no thanks. I would not give my number to anyone until I'd met them in person. As great as he seems in his profile, you just don't know what they guy's like until you meet face to face. If you want to meet him, why not just schedule a date over email (in the daytime, in a public place, etc.) and then decide if you want him to have your number.
| Tue, 05-09-2006 - 10:19pm |
I've never made a date over email as it requires some conversation and I think it's necessary to talk over the phone to see what the other person sounds like. I guess I'll agree to it and if he asks me for my number, then I'll give it to him. The order of things just seem kind of strange for me when a guy asks you out right away. I'm usually used to it happening over the phone but I guess every guy is different. Thanks!
| Sun, 05-14-2006 - 9:48pm |
Yeah so he emailed me back about two hours later that morning after I told him that we could work out meeting each other for sure. He stated excitedly that he works in the same area as me and that we should meet up the following week. I didn't respond that evening and he emails me the next afternoon with an alternate email address to write to him at if I feel like it so I figure he's really interested. Well, I respond to that email that same night to give him a better idea of where I work and when I'm free and I gave him my number. It's been over three days and he hasn't called. Now I'm left wondering what happened there. It takes him two hours to email me back but he can't call me to confirm a date? I'm ready to give up on this dating thing because this is like the 10th time in a few months that a guy has shown interest in going out with me and then not followed through. If I could figure out what I'm doing wrong I would try to fix it but I have no idea.
| Sun, 05-14-2006 - 9:59pm |
Is it possible he went out of town? Computer crashed? I wouldn't read too much into it yet. Do you have HIS number?




| Sun, 05-14-2006 - 10:08pm |
I don't have his number but I know he's visited the dating site since then and looked at my profile after I sent it. I'll give it a couple of more days I guess and then I'll forget about him. From what he's stated he's pretty busy but still...I just feel that it's kind of unbelievable that I literally have men ask me out at least once a week whether it's in real life and on-line but getting to that first date is like striking gold for me lately. I feel kind of cursed.
