Asks for loan after a few dates

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Registered: 01-27-2005
Asks for loan after a few dates
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Fri, 11-11-2005 - 3:17pm

Question for you guys.

My friend went on 3 dates with someone, then the girl asks to borrow money. How would you guys feel about this? What would you do? My friend really liked this person but now they are feeling strange that they were asked to borrow money after 3 dates.

Any input would be appreciated..

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Registered: 02-19-2004
Fri, 11-11-2005 - 3:33pm

It would be a deal breaker for me.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 11-11-2005 - 3:59pm

Yeah...that would not work for me. It's so far beyond inappropriate, we need a new word for it!!!

Sheri

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Registered: 11-08-2005
Fri, 11-11-2005 - 4:28pm

What if your friend lends her the money and then she conveniently decides to ghost?!

If somebody asked me for money that early in a relationship, that would be a deal breaker and a turn-off for me. To say the least, it is rude, especially when you barely know somebody. I would seriously wonder if the person was just interested in me for my money.

If somebody asked me for money a couple of months into a relationship when some sort of rapport has been established, well then, that's a different story. But three dates? Uh-uh. :-)

Meade

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Fri, 11-11-2005 - 4:57pm
I assume you are talking about a large amount of money and not just 20 bucks for a cab. After 3 dates, that is really in appropriate. Sounds like she is looking for a sugar daddy or at least someone with deep pockets. Is he wealthy? Do you think she sought him out for his money? Sounds like a gold-digger to me.

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Registered: 02-19-2004
Fri, 11-11-2005 - 5:08pm

A gold digger or totally financially irresponsible.

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Registered: 05-09-2005
Fri, 11-11-2005 - 6:29pm
Kayne West says it best -- GOLD DIGGER!!! (smile)
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Registered: 10-08-2005
Fri, 11-11-2005 - 8:14pm

Forget it!! Run for the hills! Gold-digger (or maybe just rude) at best, scam artist at worst.

BTW, even 20 bucks for a cab is inappropriate as far as I'm concerned. I never go out on a date without enough cash to pay for my part of the meal in case I need to leave, and my own parking, etc. If she is strapped for cash, she should say upfront that she needs to meet in a place convenient for her, as she does not like to or is unable to pay for cabs.

May sound a little harsh, but this happens to be one of my immediate deal-breakers.

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Registered: 04-19-2004
Fri, 11-11-2005 - 8:36pm

Puleeze....

If any guy asked to borrow money after 3 dates, I'd show him the door.

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Registered: 02-19-2004
Fri, 11-11-2005 - 9:04pm

You know what else I was thinking of... I remember when the roller blading guy asked me for a ride to the airport after 2 dates.

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Registered: 09-14-2005
Fri, 11-11-2005 - 10:31pm
I couldn't believe the title of this post! Wow. I agree with everyone else. Did she spend the $30 to join an OLD site to find someone to loan her money? Run, Forrest, Run!

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